People may see men as being in the losing streak in the dating game because tradition dictates that men ask the women out, pay for the date and call to follow-up on a second date. However, women empowerment movements have given men a breathing room, with more women insisting on going Dutch or calling the guy after the first date to follow-up on a second date. Despite this, the rules still dictates the norms and tradition that we are used to.



This becomes even more despairing for men if on the first date, he realizes that his date is one great gal and he is tethering on hooks waiting for her to call back. Did she lose your number? Was it a good idea to write: you are hot!, beside your phone number? Did you remember her putting the paper napkin with your precious number in her purse or just leaving it at the table? Was it even a good idea to write your number on a table napkin? These questions can drive a man nuts so here are a few tips on how you can overcome the insanity.

1. Keep your cool

A man mopping around is not an attractive man. Do not sweat it. You can think about it but stop acting like a love-struck teenager. Besides, getting depressed over the whole thing will only make you, well, more depressed. It is not conducive for productive thinking. Live your life and clear your mind. Get busy.

2. Call her

It is perfectly normal to do so. She might actually just have been genuinely busy and was unable to return your calls. Try and try again. Tenacity can have its rewards. Try calling both her home phone number as well as her office landline.

3. Widen your search

If you do not have her number, you can try calling friends that you have in common. It is also easy to Google her or look her up in the directory. She might even be surprised if you called. That will tell her how interested you are that you would go such lengths to find her number.

4. Shower her with gifts

So maybe she is busy and is still no returning your call. Desperate times call for desperate measures. Send her a huge bouquet of deep red roses, maybe even a cute teddy bear. You can even be nonchalant about it and add a little note thanking her for the wonderful evening you just had. Your first date can be a good excuse to show your gentlemanly nature.

5. Accidentally bump into her

As a last attempt and short of being scary, of course, ask your common friends the places where she usually frequents. Try to make it inconspicuous. Choose public places like a nearby bar or an art exhibit opening, somewhere authentic and possible. If she still brushes you off, I think this is a signal there that she is not interested. There is nothing wrong if your date does not return your calls or gave you hints that she does not want to see you anymore. If after all the efforts you have exerted you still think she lost interest in you, accept it and move on.