If you have recently experienced such a loss, its understandable that you might be looking for the right poem to express how you feel about the person you recently lost. It is also understandable that you might yourself be far too mired down in your own grief to think clearly what to say or do.



There are a few important things to remember, when someone has died.

1. When a person dies, that doesn't mean that the person is gone forever, or that the person no longer exists. In fact, it doesn't even mean that you won't see that person again. We are all spiritual beings. When our bodies die, that doesn't mean that we ourselves also die. In fact, no matter what your religion is, I'm sure you can agree that we are spiritual beings and not bodies. This is one belief that all religions have in common.

2. Whether you believe that people go to heaven or hell when they die, or whether you believe that people are born again after they die, the fact remains that they go somewhere. They still exist, they are the same individual as they were before they died. They have thoughts and feelings, and they may even still remember you for a long time to come. But no matter what, remember that there is always a chance you will see them again - whether it be in a future life, or in heaven. (Unless of course you suspect your loved one is going to hell and aren't planning on joining him or her there - but if you are reading this article, the chances that either one of you would be destined in that direction are slim.)

With that said, lets move on to the subject of "In Loving Memory Poems."

Your poem of bereavement can be something which you write yourself, or which is written by a family. These poems can be extremely moving for the rest of your family and friends, whether they are read out at funerals services, or under other circumstances.

Another option is to find funeral poems which have already been written. One of the most famous is the one entitled "Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep." But there are many others.

If you are going to write your poem of bereavement on your own, in loving memory of your lost friend, family member, or spouse, here are a few basic rules of advice:

1. Try to keep your poem unique and personal. Think about how you feel and try to put that into words.

2. Keep a good rhythm in your poem - it makes it much more moving, and more powerful. If you can rhyme, do. But regardless of everything, try to make your poem flow.

3. One useful technique for keeping poems rhythmic is what I refer to as "finger counting." This is a simple matter of keeping a regular pattern of syllables and accents in each line. For example, your poem may have the same number of syllables on each line, or it may have a repeating pattern.

For example:

Line 1: 7 syllables

Line 2: 5 syllables

Line 3: 7 syllables

Line 4: 5 syllables

Line 5: 7 syllables

Line 6: 5 syllables

Line 7: 7 syllables

Line 8: 5 syllables

As you can see there is a repeating pattern and rhythm. This is just one example of how it can be done. You can try any arrangement that works for you. The important thing is to try to keep it rhythmic, with a repeating pattern that changes little. This is what gives poems their musical quality, and its what makes them so powerful.

I hope this information is helpful to you and I hope you get through this difficult time. Remember, there is one thing that whomever you have lost would probably not want. That person would most likely not want you to remain sad or in emotional pain for a long, long time. So - do a good job for the funeral, express your admiration for your lost loved-one, and give them the excellent service they deserve.

Then remember to move on to happier times, create in your life, help others, and have a great future.