Personal change and growth: NO is about boundaries and identification.



Exactly what problems are you attempting to address? Do you have specific issues in mind? Predictably many of us have a real and important need to become clear about what we are trying to achieve. This applies to all things, from things that are useful to dealing with painful feelings. The problem is to be able to achieve that clarity and then to find the solutions to issues that trouble us. The 7 Words System offers a uncomplicated intuitive scheme that makes it possible for us to get hold of a greatly improved feeling of what precisely we are looking for. It opens with the word No. To begin with, we will need mark out exactly what we do not want what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Personal change and growth: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others? Are you ready to make changes in your situation and way of doing things? The following phase connects to the word Hello. We may well have to make ourselves open to new ways to see everything if we are to develop our scope of answers to the challenges that we face. You agree? To get something different we will need to stretch our scope and look where we have not previously looked already. Original dreams, new friends, new situations and new things are all aspects of giving attention to something we have not previously lived through. It requires that we exchange old for new, that we have something to offer in fair return for what we want to acquire for ourselves.

Personal change and growth: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

What do you most value about the offered options? How well are you expressing your feelings? Among all of our opportunities, some are more pleasing than others and of course we want them to have a higher value, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Time and again, we disregard the meaning of what we have, fall into ungratefulness and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than simply civility to show our appreciation for things we value; it has a significant part to play in helping us to accomplish our ambitions. Unconsciously, we are pulled to what we pronounce gratefulness for, and yet it's equally valid to say that we are able to attract them to us too. We increase magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we easily bring things towards us.

Personal change and growth: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Whichever way you go, from now on life has changed and will be forever different. Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and has to do with a process that has four phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. Goodbye is being said to a possible stage of change, which is to be perceived in simple terms as out-and-out elimination of a workable path of action that we had been moving towards and in future will not pursue. It is a crossroad point in our pick of potential futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it implies that we have had connection already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's repudiation in the first place. Authentic decisions cut the past away entirely and that penetrating quality creates an opening that otherwise does not materialize.

Personal change and growth: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

How do you cooperate to manifest your dreams? You do have a dream for your life? The future becomes known according to the habits of what has gone before unless we take control of it and bend it to our aspirations. This requires us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, specific and positive transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather dreamlike and the second is much more focused and controlled. For a vision to become real there must be cooperation. Nothing can be made possible without winning the aid of others - this takes competence, most likely arguments, even encouragement. It is not always compulsory to offer something such as money or money's worth.

Personal change and growth: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist, which underlie the issue? Sorry, the sixth word, is best seen as repairing harm done whenever we've been inattentive or neglectful to the needs or wants of someone else. The best plan is to make sure we avoid the need to say it by being thoughtful earlier. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against our better purposes and lower our likelihood of success, so it is simply more shrewd to take into account others as well as ourselves. It is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards someone whom we've upset and making atonement when we've blundered. Only then is it feasible to prevent or patch up offense and leave go of the enduring unpleasantness that otherwise would develop and worsen.

Personal change and growth: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every path is workable, that's the whole point of our being creative individuals...find a way that works for all concerned. The closing point of our 7 Words approach relates with acceptance; there are instances when we simply have to accept what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be fine wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in reality we can't. We always need to swallow what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for. The greatest knack is to place reliance on the fact that everything in the end turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when considered in the perspective of the longer term. Of course it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! However hold your fire and you'll see that the unlooked-for events, the surprises and defeats are actually the best bits masquerading as hardships.