Whenever children are involved in the mixing of families there is a chance that problems may arise with you and your mate in the relationship. Mixed families, although more common, are no less easy on the children. So, it may be a good bonding experience to include the kids in your proposal plans.This may not be easy and you may meet some initial resistance, but if at all possible, you would be wise to include the kids in the marriage proposal plans. Their role may be active prior, during, or after or just as a spectator, but as long as they are included, it will prove beneficial. When you include them, you are reaching out to them and reinforcing their role in the new family. They can see that you are not disturbing their life, as much as you are trying to enhance it. The joy that they will see in the proposal can assist them in understanding the love that you and your mate share. This allows them to better understand “why" the separate families will now become one. Now, after all that, I must caution that you cannot include the children in all cases and situations. Please, use your own best judgment of how practical that it will be in your own case. There are many factors that may affect the ability to include the children, such as age, living arrangements, other parental issues, and many others. But, if you find that there is an opportunity and you feel that it may be a beneficial experience, you should move forward.