When you were young, you may have stood in front of an audience trying to play your musical instrument. You made a major mistake by forgetting your piece somewhere in the middle. You ran out of the stage and shed your tears feeling very embarrassed. This point in your life may have made you felt like a failure.



Failure could be failing that subject in high school. The very dreaded subject that you had sleepless nights with and despite all the effort you had put into studying you still failed.

You may have had three marriages with three different men. It seems that no matter how hard you look for the right man or how much you try to make the marriage work you are a failure when it comes to relationships.

You have here three totally different situations, but that same feeling of failure. Failure for me is basically subjective depending upon the individual who may have experienced it. For some a small fall may seem like such a big failure while for others it may seem nothing.

I cannot say that those who cannot face failure are weak individuals on the other hand I cannot also say that those who stand up to failure are very strong willed. When we fail a lot of things go through our minds and we feel mixed emotions. Others vent out their feeling of grief by crying while others may scream with anger. Others may pour out their feelings by engaging in sports or other activities while there are those who want some private time alone. The important thing I guess is that we acknowledge our feelings and we express our emotions.

I tell you now I have experienced many failures in my life and I have cried pails of tears for them. But I have come to realize that the feeling is all a state of mind. No matter how hard you cry, crying won't do anything. The important thing here is that you learn to stand up after you have stumbled. Pick up the shattered pieces from the floor and assemble them once again. Learn from your mistakes. Many who have succeeded have failed in their lives several times before reaching the end in the ladder of success. So regardless of how you define success be it success in career, in family or how ever way you perceive it remember that you make your own success.