Today I was viewing what people have searched on my blog, and I came across the above question several times. When is it time to give up? When is an ex partner worth fighting for? This is a great question, one that many people do not discuss. I have stated in almost all of my articles that if you love your ex, and you are willing to fight for them then you can get them back. But how do you know if your ex is actually worth the effort? How do you know if you truly love them enough to get back together with them? This is what I would like to discuss today.

The first thing you need to do when trying to determine whether or not it is worth fighting for your ex or whether or not it is time to give up, is ask yourself this question: ?Am I willing to devote my complete attention unconditionally to this person and this relationship and do whatever it takes to make sure it succeeds?. Answering this question truthfully will do a lot to tell you whether or not you should attempt to reconnect and get your ex back.

If you can truthfully answer yes to the above question, then it tells you a few things. It tells you that you do still love them, as if you did not love them then you would not be willing to devote time or attention to the relationship. It also tells you that you love them a lot, as you are willing to devote all your time and attention to making that relationship work. And if you are willing to unconditionally (that is a key phrase) love that person and devote your time and efforts to creating a successful relationship with them, then they are obviously still worth fighting for and you should not give up!

If you say you might be willing to, or maybe not unconditionally, then there is still hope for your relationship. If you are reluctant to say yes to the above question, then you need to examine the relationship carefully. Is it worth devoting your time and attention to? After considering for a while, are you willing to unconditionally put your time and effort into building the relationship back up? If after careful consideration and deliberation you are still unable to say yes, or you are still reluctant to answer yes, then it may be a good time to end the relationship and instead look forward to new relationship. If after deliberation you are willing to say yes, you will unconditionally devote your time and effort to saving the relationship, then go for it!

If you read that question and say ?HA! Not likely!? or something similar, it is time to move on. If the relationship has been broken off, then there were obviously some issues with the relationship. If you are not willing to focus your energy on resolving those issues, then you need to move on. Relationships require work, and if you are not willing to work at your relationship, then you should not be in a serious relationship.

So what now? Have you decided whether or not your relationship is worth fighting for? If so, then do you know what your next steps are? What do you plan on doing to solve your conflict and get your ex back? If you have a plan, put it into action! Do not delay! Go and fight for who you love! Go develop that relationship that will bring you joy and happiness! (and I know it will because you are AWESOME!). If you have come to the conclusion that it is time for you to give up, to move on and end the battle for your ex's heart, then do not despair! You will probably soon meet someone with whom you will have an even better relationship that will bring you great joy and happiness. You may even have already met that person, and the relationship is just waiting for you.

Do you not know what steps to take next? Maybe this will help:

http://tinyurl.com/fightforyourlove/

Mary Glisan

http://getexbackfightforlove.wordpress.com