Sometimes the "mirror" can be really helpful, and sometimes it can cough up those really embarrassing, stupid, negative memories that are best forgotten, but that the mirror wants to keep front and center.
Have you ever had the experience of suddenly being confronted, in your mind, with something you did in the past that you wish you hadn't, or that you regretted, and that "something" flashes up on your brain screen and sends a chill down your spine, or a flop to your stomach, or a tear to your eye - or a song to your heart?
Funny - very few of my rear view mirror flashes send a song to my heart. I don't know about you, but my mirrors tend to be critical of my behavior - the coulda', woulda', shoulda's that make me feel less good about myself. My rear view mirror wants to keep the negative stuff more available than the "bring a smile " stuff.
I'm talking about those little drops of negative emotional water that hit your brain, again and again, and in so doing create a groove or funnel for continued negative flashes.
What these flashes do is create habits of thought that affect our beliefs about our personal worth, ability and value. And those negative mirror flashes feed those two little worms - the "I am not worthy" one, and the "I am not able" one. And they grow. And we do it to ourselves.
The most powerful messages we receive about our ability and value are the ones we send ourselves. And we're often not aware that we're even doing it. That's the thing about habits - both good and bad. They become so ingrained that we just do them. The good news is habits can be changed. Not stopped, but replaced with other habits.
If your rear view mirror keeps sending you negative messages about your past, here are suggestions on ways to change that destructive habit of thought.
1 - Be aware that it is happening. That sounds so obvious, but habits are sneaky. They get so ingrained that they seem unconscious. The first step is to challenge your thoughts. Are they helpful? Are they destructive? Do they help or hinder?
2- Prepare a list of the top 100 things that make you smile, make you feel thankful, make you proud, make you feel worthy and able. Write them down. This can be tough - especially if your messages have been negative for a long time. But it is the key step to replacing those negative thoughts.
3 - Review them every day and add to them as you think of more positive messages.
4 - When a negative thought message comes through, catch yourself and tell yourself to stop! And then replace it with one of your 100 or more "guaranteed to make you feel good about yourself" messages you have written down.
5 - Persist. Habits take time and dedication to change. Keep reminding yourself of the value of thinking positively about yourself. And of how much better it makes you feel.
6 - Think of your rear view mirror as having two modes - one that lets in all the bright lights that can blind you, and the other mode that filters so you can see more clearly.
Let's face it, life has and will continue to throw all kinds of challenges at us. Using your rear view mirror to prepare for the challenges to be faced is a powerful habit of thought. Take a look in yours right now, and become aware of what a positive tool it can be.
Looking In Rear View Mirror
Friday afternoon, 4 pm, and work is over. Everything could be so nice: The weekend starts, the grill for the barbecue on Saturday is already prepared, the children and the wife are going on vacation to the mountains, and I am looking forward to three days full of meat, beer and sports with the guys. But one thing interrupts my good feeling; the horrible traffic between my office and my blessed home. Usually, the drive takes around 15 minutes, but during rush hour it takes over an hour! For two weeks I have been trying to find a solution for this problem.
My first idea was buying a helicopter to fly high above the cars, but I am not sure if my 2500 bucks a month are enough for this purchase. My second idea sounded a bit more realistic. I could change jobs and work at an office near my house. But because of the fact that I am living in a residential area that is dominated by Mexican and Asian Fast Food Restaurants, this idea is wasted, too. I am Human Resource Manager, but I am not very interested in settling the conflicts of Chan-Li and Po-Li in the kitchen. So I have been trying to find out the reason for the weird situation on the highways. Surely you can say that the fact that everyone finishes work around 4 pm is the reason for this daily adventure on the road characterized by screaming, crying and brawling. But, only at first glance is this the reason for the whole disaster. The actual reason is women; the heavenly bodies, I love so much. I don't want to say that they are bad drivers and are blocking the traffic. I think everyone knows that so I don't have to mention it again. To clarify what I mean, you just have to look into the cars and trucks driven by women. They don't look at the street in front of them; they don't pay attention to the lights, which have been green for a couple of minutes. No, they just look in the mirror. Now you could assume that they want to find out what is going on behind their car. Wrong. At this moment the car behind them is as far away from their minds as the kitchen at home, which they have forgotten to clean up for 6 days. The reason, why they look in the mirror is very simple. They only want to remind themselves how beautiful they are.
I know I am not able to change the nature of women. Rather, I want to suggest a solution that will cut down the time women spend looking in the mirror. They should have a clean and modern mirror, where they can see everything. Therefore I suggest women get new rear view mirrors.
They make for a perfect inexpensive replacement or an improvement over an old-fashioned reflector. And beside that CIPA Rear View Mirrors feature an anti-glare mode to prevent blindness during nighttime drives. And this attribute is very important, because women are bad drivers in the daylight, but in the night? oh my god. As you can see, I have spent a lot of time to find a solution for the traffic problem and I think I have found it. So guys follow my advice and replace your old mirrors with the new modern rear view mirrors. The traffic and your woman will be very grateful.
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