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Making Judgments And Criticisms In Life

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Ajudgment or criticism is really a doorway into our own mind.

It does nottake a judge to make a judgment on someone, to look at the way a person choosesto live life and rain criticism down on them. We are all taking this role in life, scoring others on the systems andrules that we ourselves cannot always manage to follow. The lever of expectation seems to go upwhenever another person comes into our presence, providing no leeway or guilt withit, only a strong hand to push them on their way. What does this judgment and criticism reallymean if we were to strip away at the surface of its form?

No one candeny it that they have at some time in their life criticized another forsomething they have seen or done. Sometimes it can come across in the harshest of ways. Such confrontation does not come withoutquestioning the punishment. There is alwaysa reason for all that is said.

The answer tocriticism is often justified with a caring endearment. The criticizer might say, ?I'm doing it foryour own good?, or, ?I'm saying it because I love you and care for you and donot want you to be hurt.? In someaccounts this might be true, but at other times there might be a deeperunderlying cause that even if confronted would not be considered for one momentas the truth. This comes purely from thefact that one act of judgment being questioned by another, usually leads toanother persons judgment in return. Thisis the way we tend to deal with the situation in order to protectourselves.

What is reallyhappening in all of this; what is the factor that we do not really want to lookat?

If we wereto look at judgment and criticism for what it really means, it would refer tothe act of not liking what another person is doing. It comes at a time when we do not hold backand tell that person what we think of them. Just in writing these words it becomes clearer the underlying factor ofwhat is really going on.

Judgmentand criticism is really just a doorway into our own mind, showing us thingsthat we ourselves cannot handle. If welook at another for doing something out of place, it is usually referring toour own problem with the control of the situation at hand. People like to think that they have controlof their life and by doing this they spend a lot of the day arranging things intheir world so that the next time they wish to interact with it, it remains thesame. This links to the inability toaccept change.

We all atsome stage find it hard to handle certain acts created by another for the factthat it stretches outside our own security zone to which we like to livewithin. If they do not conform to theorder of life we wish to live, we then conveniently criticize and judge theother for what they are doing. It isreally just our means of trying to make them also conform to our own ways. No matter how it is seen, as fear orinability to cope with change. The factthat we even judge another comes down to our own control issues and leads to understandingjust in the act alone, even if we do not always admit to it. It does not take a great mind to seecriticism and judgment for what it is, it comes fast, strong and crystal clear.

What isanother interesting factor concerning the judgment and criticism of others, ishow we all deal with such judgment towards ourselves. If someone were to do such a thing back tous, we would not stand for it, even for one second. We would wither away into our own stress andworry, thinking over the act of the other person as being negative andincorrect. It would not be that oftenthat we would say, ?Yes, I agree?.

How couldwe place such judgment and criticism on another if we cannot in ourselveshandle such a blow? Do we considerourselves always above all, that we deserve the right to be the boss? Or is it just another way in order to controlour life to all that we ourselves desire?

It is onething to have dreams and desires, but another to make another follow in ourfootsteps and to conform to our ways. Our choices are our own, and if we do not justify what we say to othershow then are we to expect the same in return?

There is aneasier way to avoid such ordeals and that is to re-evaluate our own reasons forjudging another and the acts of criticism that we utilize on a dailybasis. We can question the cause of whywe need to make another conform to our ways, and at the least if we still wishto utilize such methods of interaction, justify the reason from our ownperspective, allowing the other person the chance to question suchreasoning.

At the end of the day, not matter what we choose, we will never be ableto control all our life in this way, which will eventually lead us to therealization that life is change and if we do not accept a little leeway, wemight just find ourselves surrounded by bullies, who will find every means inorder to protect their own small boundary of security, in order to do the same.

Judgmentand criticism goes both ways, but it can stop only when we choose to acknowledgethat there is difference and change, and that right and wrong is based purelyon self justified means. We are not thejudge to make choices for another. Weare merely another person trying to find our own balance, in order to find away to exist secure in life with everyone all on the same path to reason.

ByStacey T Pollock

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