Finding time for family has become one of my highest priorities lately. As the United States and the world move into a downward cycle that we may or may not recover from in the medium term (topic for another article) many peoples minds turn to things that will give them security. Things that they know are the important things. Like family.
In my mind the family ranks right up there with the most important things in life but often family is one of the first to be let go in the name of the pursuit of our goals and ironically it is often in the name of the family that we are pursuing the goals that take us away.
We justify our absence of time with the family saying it is for them that we are doing what ever has become temporally important to us. This I think eases our minds while we stroke our egos with our own pursuits.
I think this approach is backwards. Of course there are times when we are going to be out of balance while businesses or projects are being built but this should be guarded against as a lifestyle. When a constant state of building destroys those things that are important we have truly become unbalanced in our life at the expense of those things that are priceless.
In order to counteract this trend we must make time spent with the family a nearly unchangeable priority. One that can not have an exception except under extreme circumstances and I mean extreme! Life or death or one in which a future livelihood hangs in the balance. Guard against taking family time for an over rated to do list that somehow grabbed our attention in the moment.
Steven Covey talks about this in his classic book 7 Habits of Highly People when he discusses the urgent as opposed to the important. It is a tread through out the book and it should be in our life also. If you have not read the book I recommend you do so immediately. Find the time to do something important today and you will find your life transformed almost by magic.
The family is one of those areas that if given attention will create a better foundation for all else that you attempt to accomplish because as you build and nurture those relationships closest to us, you will find the support that we all need to accomplish what is a priority. We do not walk in this world alone and if in the end we have accomplished our goals and have no relationships left worth having or worse yet have destroyed the ones that were important, what is the point?. Empty rich men at the pinicle of power are almost a cliche.
It is in your hands to do it right but the urges of a self absorbed ego must be tamed in order to accomplish and build something lasting and of value so it really serves us in so many ways to make your family a high priority and to make time for them now. Dont wait until you learn the lesson through regret and wish you had done things differently. Take actions now make them a central part of your life and when you need support you are more likely to have what you need.
Making Of A Family
Can anything be done to stop this from happening? The answer is yes. All the individual has to do is make a budget plan that everyone in the household will follow.
The objective of the family budget is to spend less than how much the individual is actually earning. This could be from the salaries of the spouses and any other investments such as stocks or properties being leased out which is income generating.
The first step in making a budget is making everyone compute how much is actually being spent per month. This is the only for everyone to realize that spending for example $4.00 a day for coffee is actually $80 a month if the individual does this 5 days a week.
The question then becomes if this is necessary? If the family buys coffee for the home, why not just make it then bring it to work in a mug? The money saved can be spent on paying for credit card bills in full rather than paying the minimum and earning interest.
Some rules must be set when making purchases. If this exceeds for example $300, the spouses must first discuss if this is needed. There might be a similar item available at a cheaper price in another store.
Most stores accept either cash or a credit card in making a purchase. One way to save money is to find out if this can be paid through an installment plan. This will ease the burden of paying for the item if there isn't that much money in the wallet when the bill comes at the end of the month.
Energy conservation is also part of the family budget. If no one is in the room, the lights or even the air conditioner should be turned off. The faucets must also be closed properly so that the amount paid per month to both companies is not that big.
Even before the pending oil crisis, families were encouraged to car pool to get from one destination to another. If the place where the person wants to go is not that far, it will be a good idea to walk, take a bike or rely on public transportation, which can save some money that, was once used for gas.
Most homes have a telephone. If the individual pays more than $50 a month, perhaps it is best to start looking for another carrier that is offering a similar package at a more affordable rate.
Shopping at the grocery doesn't have to be tedious every time. There are some establishments that are cheaper than others and also offer promos to the customer. The person should just drive around the neighborhood and find it.
Many American families give children allowance. This is used to buy food or spent on buying clothes and other items from the mall. Another way to save on money will be reduce the amount given if this is necessary.
The kids will likely complain if a friend gets more in a week so it is best to suggest an option like getting a part time job to offset the cash reduced in the allowance. A few options are mowing the gardens or clearing the gutters of the neighbors, delivering newspaper and even doing some household chores.
A survey has shown a lot of children like this idea because it allows the kid to earn more money that what is usually given at the start of the week.
A study has shown that the average American household spends more than $500 on expenses a month. If there are a lot of children and the house is quite big, this can even exceed $1,000.
The family especially the kids must understand the money does not from trees. The parents have to work or one of the spouses will have to take a second job just to make ends meet.
There are ways to save money like those mentioned above. The challenging part is sticking to the plan especially if some people in the household cannot control the urge to buy something at the spur of the moment.
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