Please do not be under the impression that you are the only ones on the face of the earth who need some suggestions to make your marriage a happy and successful one. Believe us, we also had similar situations and we learnt to adjust, adapt and accept each other as man and wife.



Yes, as a first step, love yourself and learn to accept yourself as you are - for GOD has sent you on a very specific mission that only you and you alone can accomplish. Remember that you are unique in your own way.

Next, learn to love and accept each other as you are, of course with a bit of adjustment, adaptability and acceptance here and there. Please do not try to change the other and finally end up manipulating and exploiting each other.

All the same, please do not over stretch yourselves, since you do not have to prove yourselves to anybody by having to win so called Made for each other contests being conducted so often for the public.

Marriages are made in heaven all right. But you can always choose the right attitude required making your marriage a happy and successful one. Be friends forever.

In a husband and and wife relationship, normally it is said that a father likes a girl child and a mother likes a boy child. But it cannot go beyond this in a family set up however close the relationship maybe. It is also one sided since the parents have to provide for and take care of the children and only later on life will the children have an opportunity to reciprocate to their parents.

Here in your relationship, giving and taking should start from day one and should be mutual. And the relationship goes beyond everything and even into sharing your bed with each other. And that is why your relationship is so special and the closest of all relationships under the sun. Moreover, there are so many males and females in your age group but destiny has brought both of you together, as they say -Marriages are made in Heaven.

You are equals. Your ego has to simply go. No doubt, it will be difficult to accept each other from day one since both of you come from two different family backgrounds and upbringing. For instance, on day two of our own wedding, I asked my husband what his bank balance was and that infuriated him and he was hopping mad. As bad luck would have it, his immaturity also surfaced shortly and he told me that I was neither like his mother nor like his sister. And one can guess what would have happened. Each of you have your own strengths and combine them to win the world instead of picking on each other and losing out in the bargain.

Do what is expected of you as husband and wife. As husband and father, you are expected to provide for the family and give your children the right guidance. And as wife and mother, you should be clever enough to live within the family income and rear the children with love and affection. Do not get carried away by whatever lifestyle your relatives or friends adopt. Do not get fooled as the saying goes - the other side of the grass is greener.