If you are a single person looking for a relationship, you're probably wondering, where is that magic place where I can meet someone? You have possibly heard the answer to this questions that is "everywhere" but it doesn't help you much. You have also heard all the mixed messages like, he/she will appear when you stop looking for him/her and don't give up looking for love. Or, love will show up at your door step when you're ready, but you have to put yourself out there if you want to meet someone. Are you confused yet? How is it possible to go out there, put yourself out there, not look for love, stop expecting it and at the same time keep on hoping to find it? It is wonderful when it just happens without you expecting it, but if you want it so much, how can you stop looking for it? The answer is, do what feels most comfortable to you. And how do you know what is comfortable? This is what I'm about to discuss in this article.



There are three ways you can meet other singles: spontaneously, by a set up and long term. Each way is unique and each way works differently. The question is, what is the most effective way for you and which way can bring you the results you desire? So let's talk about them.

The first and most common way to meet other singles is spontaneously. And it means what it says. When you suddenly meet the person you're attracted to without expecting it to happen. It can happen any where at any time and you never know where, how or why. It just happened. The beauty of this method is that the fact that you didn't expect it and it is a pleasant surprise. You didn't have to work for it, prepare for it or make it happen. There was no time for you to get nervous in anticipation and there is no room to screw anything up because it already happened. However, as beautiful as it sounds, the problem is that it doesn't happen very often. And due to the common phrase that says it will happen when you least expect it, people usually don't stop expecting it, instead they start desperately hoping for it to happen and get disappointed if it doesn't happen for a while. They feel powerless and unhappy. And when they do finally see someone they like, because they didn't "prepare" for it, there is a chance they can miss this person because they didn't take time to put themselves in the open state of mind or look their best for the occasion.

A set up is a way to meet singles through a specific activity that you know will bring an eligible bachelor/bachelorette to a place where you're going. An example of a set up is online dating, a singles event, a blind date or a setup date. Going to meet your friends for dinner where you know they are inviting someone for you is also a set up. In other words, you are prepared to encounter another single and eligible person you're about to meet. What's great about this way is knowing that you are not just sitting there feeling unhappy in your singlehood but are indeed taking action to change your lifestyle. Another good thing is that you have a chance and time to get yourself all pampered up and ready for what's to come. One of the drawbacks about this method is the fact that it can create a lot of anxiety and fear in some people. It involves a certain amount of vulnerability and openness which makes it hard for people and it doesn't really help to know that you're about to meet someone who feels awkward about meeting you.

Finally, a long term way is a transition between friends and lovers, or suddenly developing an attraction to someone you already know from work, school or an organization you attend on a regular basis. This way may seem to have the least amount of risk involved because you have a chance of getting to know someone in a pressure free environment, however there is a risk of it not working out and then you might consider the option of leaving the place to avoid further contact with this person.

Having said that, what do you think works best for you? Think about all the possibilities you have and try all the three ways. You may feel comfortable doing it one way, but your true love can come to you through a different way. And knowing that you have more than one option may bring you the comfort of knowing that you have more than one choice of doing it.