Exactly what are you attempting to say? As a rule we need to become better focused about things we would like. This is true for all things, from everyday practical matters to avoiding sore, difficult or awkward feelings. The mystery is to be able to get that clarity and then to uncover the answers to whatever problems we have to deal with. The 7 Words System offers a down-to-earth intuitive practice that permits us to get a much better feeling of what exactly we are trying to find. This begins with No. First and foremost we will need to name faithfully what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.



Meeting etiquette guidelines: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others about ways to present your point? The second phase links with the word Hello. We will need to open up to new ideas and people if we expect to develop our breadth of solutions to the challenges that we face. Is that reasonably logical? To get something fresh we will need to widen our prospect of vision and look where we have not formerly looked before. Original ideas, new people, new places and new things are clearly characteristic of giving deliberation to something we have not formerly come into contact with. So we will have to at some point replace old for new, that can tender something in reasonable return for what are trying to obtain for ourselves.

Meeting etiquette guidelines: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

What do you most value about the people you are addressing? Between all existing opportunities, some are more desirable than others and we feel we want to treat them as having a greater worth, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Time and again, we disregard the meaning of what we have, slip into ungratefulness and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than merely consideration to display our appreciation for things we treasure; it has an important consequence in helping us to succeed in attaining our ambitions. Psychologically we are attracted to what we pronounce appreciation for, and yet it's equally accurate to say that we can to draw them to us too. We improve our pulling power when we say Thanks and therefore, whenever we do this, we effortlessly bring things to come to us.

Meeting etiquette guidelines: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

After you have delivered your message, will your audience's understanding be forever different? The word Goodbye is the fourth of the 7 primary words and has to do with a course of development that has 4 clearly defined steps. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. Goodbye is being said to a particular stage of development, and so is to be perceived in simple terms as total dismissal of a possible course of action that previously we had been going towards and in future will not follow. It is a turning point in our range of potential outcomes. Goodbye is different from No because it is clear that there has been a degree of some kind of involved interaction already, which now needs to end compared to No's negation in the first place. True decisions cut the past away unconditionally and that sharpness forms an opportunity that otherwise does not come to exist.

Meeting etiquette guidelines: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

What is the message trying to achieve...what's your intended outcome? The future opens out according to the habits of the past unless we take control of it and shape it to our needs. To do this requires us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, exact and optimistic—and converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather unreal and the second is much more focused and conscious. For a dream to become real there must be cooperation. Nothing can be done without acquiring the help of other people - this takes skillfulness, perhaps persuasion, even encouragement. It is not always compulsory to present something such as money or money's worth.

Meeting etiquette guidelines: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility for your part in any misunderstandings that have arisen? Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good damage done because we've been insensitive or neglectful to the circumstances of another. The best plan is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being considerate earlier. For what reason? Well it's because anyone we upset could easily be inclined to act against us and reduce our likelihood of achievement of our goals, so it is obviously more sensible to take into account others as well as ourselves. This question is all to do with being responsible, having a degree of concern for anyone we've upset and making recompense when we've done wrong. Then and only then will it ever be possible to prevent or heal bitterness and leave go of the permanent nastiness that otherwise would grow and fester.

Meeting etiquette guidelines: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every communication will be effective, sometimes you will need to accept that. The closing phase of our 7 Words classification is to do with acceptance; there are times when we simply have to endure what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be delightful wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in actual reality we can't. We always need to withstand what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for. The greatest thing is to have conviction that everything in the end turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when seen in the perspective of the longer term. Surely it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Nevertheless pause a while and you will see that the surprising occurrences, the surprises and disappointments are actually the best bits masquerading as misfortune.