We all start our new relationships with hopes,



dreams, and wonderful aspirations. But oftentimes,

we see couples, or in our own relationships,

where things turn sour. What can be done to keep

a relationship strong and joyous? Avoid this

common mistakes.

1. Not investing enough time in your relationship

2. "Housework" is not just for women. You can

learn how to do laundry, vacuum the house and

wash the dishes if you haven't learned in the

past.

3. Your partner is NOT your Mom and is not

responsible to help you remember what it takes to

keep harmony and peace in your relationship.

4. Thinking everything is about you and for you.

Basically being selfish in a relationship.

5. Storming out of an argument without an

agreement to at least come back later for

resolution

6. Not listening too and supporting your partner?

s ideas even if you don't believe in them

7. Constantly talking smack about her family

members. You knew who they were before you became

involved with her and whether you like it or not,

they are there to stay. Please remember that

blood is thicker than water. That doesn't mean

you can't voice an opinion occasionally, it just

means don't constantly rail on her family even if

you are right. You'll plant a seed in her that

may grow into a thorn bush.

8. Not taking your time in bed with her to allow

her to grab a piece of heaven. Men want quick

affection, sex, and security with a woman. And

then we want the space and relaxed distance.

Women want space and relaxed distance. THEN they

want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and

security.

9. Not learning to be emotionally available.

Women aren't asking you to stop being a man, just

talk about who you are, where you came from, past

history and future dreams.) If this is hard for

you, seek help or join a group.

Counseling can be difficult for men. It is

traditionally based on talking and sharing. These

are more conducive for women. But there are male

counselors out there and you don't have to go to

just anyone. You have the power of choice. Going

to counseling is not a sign of weakness. Not

going is more a sign of weakness, because you are

avoiding the real problems and stand to lose your

love relationship.

Also there are another mistakes that a men

should avoid:

* Never tell any woman that she has put on weight,

even if you think it only makes her sexier, keep

silent. Most women are fiercely fighting against

extra pounds - they are dieting, taking pills,

and work out until they faint.

* Don't nag at her for spending the whole day and

a fortune in a beauty parlor. For girls a new

hairstyle or fresh manicure symbolizes a new life.

* Never criticize her cooking skills, even in the

most delicate way ("My mom usually adds eggs in

the pancake batter"). Your mom has nothing to do

with your relationship.

* Never praise another woman's looks if your

girlfriend is around. Beware that the mere fact

that divas of this caliber exist on the same

planet makes the life of every woman miserable.

Your girlfriend is concerned about her body, no

matter how perfect she seems to you.

* Don't take your girlfriend to a soccer (hockey,

golf, etc.) tournament. She will either sit there

bored and ruin your fun, or will get to like the

sport and in no time she will know more about

soccer (hockey, golf, etc.) than you do, which

will piss you off eventually. This way she will

deprive you of one of our main guys? pleasures.

* In most of relationships both partners try to

avoid conflicts .Conflict includes such examples

as arguments, differences, and variances. The

Truth is, we are all different. That's what makes

each one of us special. But, sometimes we try to

avoid our partner. This is much like number one

on the list but is more keenly felt by the

partner. Worst is that we blame others (or other

things) and deny our own self-responsibility.

When we avoid responsibility, we typically

express it as blaming others, usually our partner,

and try to make them change and conform. This is

a form of manipulation and an avoidance of Self.

Many of us refuse to get help.

If you had the methods and the tools to keep your

relationship alive, loving and healthy you don't

need any advices but if not you should avoid this

mistakes.