It might surprise you that every successful person has a long list of failures and rejections. J.K. Rowlings was rejected by 12 publishers before Harry Potter was published. Moby Dick took years to be accepted. The Beatles were initially rejected by Decca Records, before they went on to fame.
What can we learn from these examples? It could be said that failure and rejection are the forerunners of success. Before we succeed, we will fail many times.
In my book, "Secrets from the Sofa," I emphasize that it is crucial that you perceive of yourself as a capable person. Success is virtually guaranteed when a person focuses, keeps trying, and adjusts their approach until they get the results that they want.
When faced with adversity and rejection, many people will give up and quit. However, it is "trial and error" that helps us to discover what works and is effective.
That's why I'd like you to think of failures and mistakes as stepping stones to achieving your goal. It took Thomas Edison 1,000 tries to perfect the light bulb. He didn't consider those tries failures, because they were steps to achieving his goal. You should do the same!
When I coached baseball, I taught each child that he could be a good player if he put forth his best effort. Of course, some people are better ballplayers that others. However, a person who sticks with something (or preserves) is more likely to succeed.
Mistakes and shortcomings are an opportunity to improve. When we make a mistake, we understand what doesn't work. Henry Ford, the inventor of the Model-T Ford automobile, once said, "I've tried so many things that didn't work. I finally found something that works!"
When something doesn't work, there is no need to give up. What slight adjustment can you make, to get a different result? Perhaps you can try something different, or adjust your approach.
Failure is an opportunity to try again more intelligently. When you experience failure or rejection, learn from your experiences and come back stronger. Pick yourself up, change your approach (or try something different) and try again.
Today, I challenge you to boldly pursue your dreams. Decide in advance, to take every setback as a spur towards greater effort, knowing that you are getting closer and closer to your goals. And never, never, never give up on your dreams!
Never Give Up On Your Dreams
Amazingly very few people take the time to keep a running list of goals. Sadly, even fewer people actually work their goals. So take the time right now to give yourself a little pat on the back! You deserve it.
You're part of the elite group of people who have chosen to take an active role in their own success. If the whole idea of goal setting (and goal achieving) is a new one to you, don't worry; the important thing is that you've decided to take the bull by the horns and get started!
Here's a technique to add substance to the goals you've set! Remember, the more real the goal is in your mind, the easier your subconscious mind can get around your desires and jump into action and start helping you realize them!
This technique assumes you've already decided on the things you'd like to achieve. If you're not there yet then take the time to record your goal, dreams and the action steps you believe are necessary to reach them.
Be sure to give yourself the room to adjust those items as needed. It's a journey and one that you should derive enjoyment from. Remember, you're taking the word chance out of the equation and are taking an active role in the reaching the destinations you set for yourself.
After you've listed out your goals and dreams, the next step is to actually visualize yourself reaching your intended goal. It is through visualization that we can actually program ourselves to reach that which we desire.
My friend, it's one thing for you to say, "I want to get a new job", and quite another to say, "In my dream job I will be in charge of marketing at a growth oriented company. I will find employment in such and such an industry. To reach this destination I will send out a certain amount of resumes and do follow-ups with those companies until I secure the employment I am looking for".
The idea is that you're rehearsing these events in your mind. You're giving them vast amounts of power because as the saying goes. That which the mind can conceive, it can achieve. When using visualization with your goals try and do it as vividly as you can. The more real they appear the better.
Another technique is to imagine yourself sitting in a movie theater. See your goals and dreams playing out before you on a large screen. Find a technique that works for you (the key word being what works for you).
Hopefully from the example above you see the difference that a little visualization can play in making our goals more "concrete" in our minds? To say I want to find my dream job is one thing, but to identify it and imagine myself doing this job (and taking the necessary steps to become employed) creates an added energy that will propel you towards making it a reality!
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