A kind of "stress dam" I like to call it, is setup when we cannot or do not know how to release tension. When you allow stress to build, it releases hormones that cause us to be more accident-prone and less able to make good decisions. This can also reduce our motivation to succeed and even cause burnout and loss of performance. Trying to start and maintain a new home business can cause a slow buildup of stress.



In some people the stress builds up to a certain point and they "explode" in anger or "fly off the handle" as my mom used to say. Some people break things or treat others badly. This is the wrong way to relieve stress and could be dangerous. It also will transfer stress to coworkers and worse to your customers.

Stress can change the way you answer emails and phone calls to customers or clients. You may not notice a thing but your customer can feel that slight boiling point or impatience with them.

MOVIES AND TV

Why do we like to watch a good action movie? You know it's fake and all that killing isn't real. Think about it. If you know it's not real then why do you get more excited when the action builds? I'll tell you something you should think about a lot and give more thought to what your kids are watching too! The fact is: Your creative mind thinks it's real! It does not know in any way that what you are watching is not real! No matter what logic you think of to inform the creative side of your brain that this movie is only for fun is ignored by the creative side of your mind. It has no logic except, It's real. So, you know what to do.

BAD AND COSTLY INTERNET ADVICE

It's easy to spend a small fortune on E-books and information products that are worthless. You should only deal with a few very honest and knowledgeable businesses on the internet. It may be hard to believe but one of the best internet business guides and advice doesn't cost a thing. I do know some very good and honest people that teach online business but it's expensive in my opinion. Why not get the information for nothing. The paid versions may offer a little more hand holding. The free version wants to sell you their web service but its customers have had the greatest success.

TWO KINDS OF EXHAUSTION

Eight or ten hours of normal work isn't going to make you come home and plop down in a chair where you can't move for hours. Then drag yourself off to bed when the wife calls you. Notice I said Normal workdays. If you're fighting fires all day or catching fish in the North Sea or working in a gold mine then it's normal to be exhausted.

I've known farmers that collapsed on the bed, dirty clothes and all. After knowing them for a while it was easy to see the stress caused by the huge problems and low profits of farming. It would sap their energy like a sponge. I noticed my cousin wasn't like that at all. After work he was tired but after dinner he would say "Hey Walt, let's go fishing." And off we would go to the river and fish till dark. He didn't let anything bother him and so had more energy. He had learned to "let go" and release the stress energy naturally.

A mature individual views mistakes as a learning experience and not as a shameful event. Don't worry what others think of you and build your self confidence from within you. This will increase your self esteem.

Assertiveness is much better than a passive or weak approach to business deals. Stress is built up when you acknowledge the power of the other person or worry about potential conflict. Not in an aggressive way but in an assertive approach ask for what you want by negotiating rationally with the other person. In this way you show respect for your working relationship and it's much better for your self-esteem.

Drinking and using drugs is a selfish self-centered way to feel better. Not one person in the history of the world ever gained a thing from this behavior. It's obvious. And that includes actors and rich people. If you feel like you need to drink or use drugs you should go and help someone instead. Do not expect anything in return not even thanks. I helped a lady the other day and she told me to go jump in the ocean.

Release stress in natural ways. Make sure you are getting enough sleep. As you get older you may need more. Some people say "I don't need much sleep" but it catches up with them sooner or latter.

Dreaming is a natural stress reliever. If you do not dream much or don't remember what you dream then you are not getting enough sleep. One of the things I do is take vitamin B6, (not in a multi). It makes me dream more, remember my dreams and take away my stress.

Careful of the type of movies you see! Part of you (your creative mind) thinks it's real. That's why you like them so much. Try drawing or music to relax and Later at bedtime, you should sleep like a baby. Wild sounds (that's why God made birds) of nature are also designed to clear out the cobwebs. Most people have no idea how the forest can clear the mind but campers and fishermen know.

Writing your problems and feelings down in a notebook helps a lot. ( some people may have to burn it afterwards ) A wonderful way to help yourself is to make up a story with all your problems dumped into the characters. You can give them worse problems then you ever had and then solve them by the end of the story. I wrote an entire science fiction screenplay with every thing I ever wanted and it worked wonders for me.

Nice Guys with Girl problems. Ever wonder why girls like the bad boys and not the so called "nice guy". It's because overly nice guys are seen as needy and not as strong confident men. Oh please like me! I'm so needy! Lots of guys do this you're so pretty kind of kiss her hinnie. Don't do it! Tease her in a nice funny way. Never act or be needy because if you do she surely won't need you! If you are a REAL MAN she will be lucky to get you so give it time. Please remember that women are never ATTRACTED to WUSSIES so never act like one, NEVER! Real Women love Real confident Men by nature and by choice.