If you read through any number of women's online profiles, you'll see a constant running through them: a desire to feel “chemistry” with a man.

Here are a few of my observations and experiences with “chemistry.” First off, “chemistry” is a word that holds deep meaning for women, but not much meaning for men.

Chemistry is not to be confused with “love” although many people, unfortunately, do so. It's a transient high that occurs when two people first meet each other, and it's something that lasts for months, not years—it tends to wear off with time and familiarity.

Chemistry is triggered in women by what I call, “naughty boy” behavior in men… unpredictable, fun, unexpected things, a “naughty boy smile,” and then switching between sincerity and back again to “naughtiness” just when she thinks she has you figured out.

When women experience “intense chemistry” with a guy, they tend to think about him all the time—scarcity can increase the intensity all the more, because when you part ways, you leave her wanting more, with her not wanting you to leave.

Under the glare of intense chemistry (where “longing” is a component) women tend to rationalize or “re-frame” obvious bad behavior by the guy—he borrows money from her constantly because he's a lazy bum, she views him as simply “down on his luck, someone who'll get it together soon.” When the chemistry disappears, and she sees the bum for what he is, oftentimes you'll hear these exact words, “I just don't know what I saw in him.”

Chemistry is not something that “happens,” it can be created by careful practice and application of what I teach in Secrets of Natural Attraction When you switch the question in your head from, “Gee, I wonder if she likes me?” to “How can I create and enhance ‘chemistry' in her?” you're well on your way to massive success with women.

Obviously there's more to know about chemistry—but if you keep the above in mind when interacting with any woman, more often than not you'll do something few people are ever able to do in OR out of school… get an “A” in chemistry.

Where To Practice Basic Dating Naughtiness

Today I want to talk about the best place to “practice” what I call being a “naughty boy.” Sometimes this can be a bit hard to “practice” because you're already in the middle of a “live date,” but you need to practice if you're going to get good at it.

The best place I've discovered to “practice” is with waitresses during off peak times—after the lunch crowd has left, or on a slow night. What's great about practicing with waitresses is, they have to approach you first, and they are already in a friendly frame of mine.

What I do with waitresses is practice making “naughty comments,” seeing how many I can get in while she's attending to me. This forces you to think very quickly in a pressure free environment because she can only spend a certain amount of time with you before she has to take care of other people. Because you're “just practicing,” there's no expectation of you doing anything with her (although you will find yourself spending time outside of work with a lot of waitresses as you get good at it), so you feel loose.

My intent is to see how much I can get her to laugh, and how much I can get her to return my “naughty smile,” touch me, etc. What's great about practicing with waitresses is, you very quickly develop a set of expressions that you know work—you get a “feel” for being “naughty.” The trick is to create as much attraction in the smallest amount of time possible, leaving her feeling great because she had a fun interaction with an attractive guy.

So, you guys who feel you need to practice (and all of you do), simply go find a restaurant with a few cute waitresses, and let out the naughty boy inside. You'll be shocked when a few of them DON'T want you to leave… that's when you know you're getting good at this.