Fear of public speaking is a very common form of social anxiety. Fear of public speaking has often been called the 'Greatest Anxiety,' due to the large number of people who actually experience this fear. Fear of public speaking doesn't just mean that you have a fear of making a speech in public. It can mean that you experience stage fright, or even that you have a fear of talking to other people in a social situation.
Fear of public speaking often holds people back from many things that they want in their lives. It may be job promotions, or fund raisers for causes that they believe in, but the fear of public speaking will, at some point, stand between you and what you want or need.
Symptoms of fear of public speaking include shortness of breath, inability to speak, a shaky voice, shallow breathing, rapid heartbeat, sweating, nausea, dizziness, or lightheadedness. There are many things that can cause fear of public speaking. Social anxiety can cause a fear of public speaking. It may also be caused by an earlier traumatic public speaking experience. There is no one answer as to why some people experience fear of public speaking, but for those who experience it, the fear is quite real - but it can be dealt with.
There are many tricks a person can use to get past their fear of public speaking. The first trick is to know exactly what you are going to say, but not to worry about memorizing every word of your speech. Use note cards, and write down your key points - in sentences that make sense. This way, if you freeze up and forget what you were going to say, you can refer to your notes, and pick up where you left off. Use big print on the note cards, and if possible, keep up with where you are on the cards during your speech, so it will be easy to find your place if you need to.
Once you've prepared and practiced your speech, stop. Put it away, and don't think about it again, until you are on the stage, ready to deliver the speech. Often people over practice, and this just causes the fear to grow and grow. Remember it is okay to mess up when you are giving a speech. Simply laugh at yourself, the audience will laugh with you - not at you - and you can continue your speech. In fact, most people are much more relaxed after they've made that first mistake in the speech and laugh about it. They know, at that point, that they are going to be okay.
Speeches do not need to last for hours. You only need three or four main points. Say what needs to be said, accept the applause and say 'Thank You,' and go off and enjoy the rest of your day or evening. Another trick that works well is to have someone you know well to look at throughout the speech, and concentrate solely on that person. Give you speech to them, and them alone - even if the room is packed. This means that you bring your spouse along with you, or bring a friend. This must be someone that you are always comfortable talking to.
Many people feel that they must include jokes in their speeches. Unfortunately, many of these people fear that they are not funny, or that their joke will flop, and this causes more anxiety and fear. If you are worried about this, omit the jokes from your speech and be serious. The people are there to hear the information, not the jokes.
If all else fails - picture everyone in their underwear. This is an old standby that really does work. The point of doing this exercise is that it makes everyone in the room seem less intimidating. You don't even have to picture them in their underwear. Picture them with hair curlers in their hair, or picture the men with facial cream on their faces. There are a variety of ways that you can envision them in your head. Before you start the speech, simply look out over the room, and get that less intimidating mental picture in your head - but don't laugh outloud!
Overcoming Fear Of Public Speaking
Public speaking is the worst known phobia. In a recent survey, 90% of people said that they would rather die than stand up and make a speech in front of their family, friends and colleagues. This is a serious problem. But how have we come about this crazy statistic?
It's easy. People don't want to make a fool of themselves in front of their peers. I know that when I was a child, I was of terrified visiting my aunties and uncles' houses at the weekend, because we were expected to perform a 'party piece', a two minute tortuous entertainment. A song, a monologue or a little dance would do the trick.
The major concern was not performing the 'party piece'. It was a fate worse than a fate worse than death and for me because the fear of public speaking is tied up with the humiliation involved when your 'loved-ones', people who really ought to know better, hold on to this nugget of information knowing that they can use it against you at any time, now or in the future.
As children at home, we were always told to be quiet. Similarly, at school, shut up, be quiet, go away if you want to talk! My grandfather had a rather unpleasant saying, "If you can't improve on the silence, then shut up!"
As a child, it was rather difficult to know how to improve on the silence, I found it all terribly confusing. But surely this was what granddad wanted, a quiet life with no interruptions from children who knew, well, nothing.
It's not surprising that we feel less than confident when we stand up and actually want to communicate something serious. This is hardly supportive conditioning for our careers, is it?
Do any of these scenarios strike a chord with you? If so, then don't feel bad about it, because you like nine of out ten people in the street, feel exactly the same. You'll be glad to know that help is just an email away. If you live in the United States you'll find a number of speakers clubs in your locality and they belong to an organisation called Toastmasters International.
If you live in the United Kingdom, there's an organisation called the Association of Speakers Clubs. Both of these organisations are voluntary and they'll give you supportive environment in which to build your speaking skills. It's great fun and you'll make some lasting friends too.
Everybody who attends a speakers club has felt that debilitating nervousness, that fear of public speaking that occurs at the prospect of addressing an audience. Join your local club and they'll soon help you step up to the speaking mark. As you grow in confidence, remember to read public speaking articles on the web to give you a broader view of the subject.
Both Gary M. Miller & Vincent Stevenson are contributors for EditorialToday. The above articles have been edited for relevancy and timeliness. All write-ups, reviews, tips and guides published by EditorialToday.com and its partners or affiliates are for informational purposes only. They should not be used for any legal or any other type of advice. We do not endorse any author, contributor, writer or article posted by our team.
Gary M. Miller has sinced written about articles on various topics from Religion, Web Development and Sleep Disorder. Gary Miller is the author of "Prisoners of Our Thoughts: How to break free from the grips of Social Anxiety and Fear." To learn more about the book click here to go to the website at. Gary M. Miller's top article generates over 90500 views. to your Favourites.
Vincent Stevenson has sinced written about articles on various topics from Writing, Marketing and Communications and Public Speaking. The College of Public Speaking has made a major impact on the Corporate Sector, conducting several major speaking programmes for prestigious organisations. Visit us at =>. Vincent Stevenson's top article generates over 8100 views. to your Favourites.
Buying Home On Contract You might as well listen to what they have to say. Who knows, this may help to speed up the sale of your home!