Soul Mate Test: NO is about boundaries and identification.



You have to know who you are if you want to find someone to be perfect for you. Typically we need to become clear about the things we are trying to achieve. This concerns all and everything, from what is useful to dealing with distressing emotions. The mystery seems to be to do with how to reach clarity and then to uncover the answers to issues that trouble us. The 7 Words System offers a uncomplicated innate routine that makes it possible for us to get a much better feeling of what precisely we are looking for. The process kicks off with the word No. We need firstly to describe accurately what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Soul Mate Test: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

Look around and see what's happening, to you, to others...learn what works for others and think about it carefully. The second stage correlates with the word Hello. We will certainly need to open up to new ideas and people if we want to increase our breadth of answers to puzzles and challenges. You agree? To get something fresh we will need to widen our perspectives and look where we have not formerly looked before. Novel ideas, new associates, new places and new things are all aspects of giving a degree of awareness to something we have not formerly come into contact with. This entails that we replace old for new, that we have something to offer in equitable return for what are trying to obtain for ourselves.

Soul Mate Test: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

How well are you expressing your appreciation? Can you find qualities to admire in people you meet; the best qualities are usually deeper, often hidden. Among all open opportunities, some are more attractive than others and we give them a higher merit, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Frequently, we overlook the worth of what we have, then blindly move into ungratefulness and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than just good manners to reveal our appreciation for things we esteem; it has an important part to play in helping us to succeed in attaining our objectives . Unconsciously, we are magnetized to what we pronounce gratitude for, and yet it's equally accurate to say that we are able to attract them to us too. We increase pull when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we easily bring things to come to us.

Soul Mate Test: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Are you willing to realize that after finding a soul mate life has changed and will be forever different. Are you willing to change? Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and has to do with a process that has four stages. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying goodbye to a possible stage of change, so could be distinguished in basic terms as out-and-out refutation of a viable path of action that previously we had been progressing towards and in future will not follow. It is a turning point in our choice of potential outcomes. Goodbye is different from No because it is clear that we have had some kind of involved interaction already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's rebuttal in the first place. Sincere decisions cut the past away unreservedly and that penetrating quality creates an opening that otherwise does not appear.

Soul Mate Test: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

How do you cooperate to find harmony? You do have a vision of a successful partnership? TThe future opens out according to the things considered normal of the past unless we take control of it and bend it to our aspirations. To do this requires us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, precise and optimistic—and transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is to some extent illusory and the second is much more centered and controlled. For a dream to become real there must be support. . Nothing can be made possible without securing the support of others - this takes skillfulness, possibly arguments, even motivation. It is not always crucial to proffer something such as money or money's worth.

Soul Mate Test: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist? Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good harm done whenever we've been insensitive or oblivious to the circumstances of another. The best strategy is to make sure we preclude the need to say it by being understanding sooner. Why? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against us and lower our chances of accomplishing what we intend, so it is obviously more reasonable to respect others as well as ourselves. This question is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards anyone we've upset and making compensation when we've got it wrong. Then and only then will it ever be feasible to prevent the likelihood or heal offense and let go of the permanent nastiness that otherwise would develop and continually irritate.

Soul Mate Test: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Sometimes unacceptable behaviour just has to be accepted. How tolerant are you? The last phase of our 7 Words approach is to do with acceptance; there are circumstances when we simply have to bow to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be good wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in actual fact we can't. We always need to take what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.

The best technique is to trust that everything in the long run turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when understood in the perspective of the longer term. Definitely it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! In spite of that pause a while and you may well see that the surprising occurrences, the surprises and setbacks are actually the best bits camouflaged as trouble.

James Burgess 2008