Once you know what works and what doesn't, you will find that your anxiety will drop and success is on the way.

Ask yourself how many women that you have targeted to become your date that ultimately becomes your friend? Sometimes it seems that the harder you try, the more they are repelled from you.

If you believe that one day all of a sudden, a beautiful woman will just drop in your arms, it's just a dream, that's it! Nothing but a dream! You must take action to make things happen; it doesn't just happen on its own.

Ask yourself if you're a man who has the right attitude? What are your reactions around women?

From speaking to hundreds of men, I have found that being a nice guy doesn't always work, because the woman you were trying to attract ends up being just your friend. However, having said that, you don't have to become a bastard as well.

You must realize that you must add the Mr Nice guy with what she is ultimately seeking, whether it is romance, sexiness, playfulness, excitement, or eroticism. This you must find out. Period.

So don't give up on being Mr Nice just because it hasn't yielded the results you desire. You just need to find out what are the needs of that particular woman you are trying to attract and meet those needs.

This does not mean that you become someone that you are not and then feel very uncomfortable about it. What it does mean is stepping up and becoming a bigger person than what you have been in the past. A kind of self improvement if it may.

To successfully date, you must put your best foot forward if you desire the results. Doing things differently than you may have in the past does not mean that you are not true to yourself. Some may say 'this is who I am, if she doesn't like it, then so be it'. Ask yourself, if you were looking in as a third party, would you go out with yourself? Don't ever feel that you are manipulating and being someone that you're not, all you are doing is improving yourself.

Think about the woman who tries to attract men everyday. They always try to look there best by applying a face full of make up, with their nails done etc. I'm sure that they don't do this if they were just going to spend a night at home by themselves would they? They are not being deceptive or trying to become another person, all they are doing is trying to show the best of themselves to others.

Men should also do the same. There is no shame in improving yourself and showing the best you have to offer.