"I'm tired of always being the youngest in the family," sputtered the rebellious Linda one day. Her mother laughed at her crossness and then had an idea.
"How would you like to be a grandmother for a day?" she asked.
Linda forgot her crossness and brightened up, "How?" "How could I?"
"We could plan a Grandmother's party and invite your friends in for an afternoon tea like Grandmother used to enjoy when she was young."
And this was the start of Linda's "Grandmother's" party. To give her invitations an old-fashioned touch Linda pasted colored rickrack braid around the edges of small white cards. On the cards she printed "Come to Linda's for Grandmother's Day."
When her excited guests arrived they were directed to the back bedroom where they found two large boxes one filled with old long dresses, one for each little guest the other filled with hats, gloves, beads, and other fancies.
Around the room Linda had pinned a few old-fashioned pictures which the girls studied to get ideas about hair styles. Also they were not familiar with the black court-plaster beauty spots until they saw an old photograph. After considerable hilarity over "dressing-up" and a proper time devoted to primping, Linda announced a style show to discover the prettiest costume, the funniest, and the cleverest. Winners would be judged by the applause of the guests and awarded prizes.
After all this excitement the girls went to the living room for a "Quilting Bee," so popular when Grandmother was a girl. Each girl was given a small square of tarlatan and enough tiny squares of gay cotton material to cover it also a tube of glue. Each girl then glued her cotton squares to the tarlatan back to make a doll-sized quilt. The girl with the nicest looking quilt was awarded a prize.
Because even interested girls do not like to sit still too long, the next game was an active one. Linda put a work basket in the center of the floor and around it circles of various colored tissue paper which represented balls of Grandmother's yarn. Each girl was then given a cardboard fan (Manila folders make good fans). Then each girl tried for one minute to fan as many balls of yarn as possible into the work basket.
Linda's mother timed each contestant and awarded a small prize to the most successful. This game is very tricky because the thin paper blows out of the basket as easily as it blows in. In Grandmother's childhood homemade feather beds and pillows were common in every home, so Linda planned a feather relay. Her guests were divided into two groups. The first player of each group was given a feather. Each girl keeps her feather in the air by blowing on it while she crosses the room and returns. She then hands her feather to the next in line. The side finishing first wins the relay.
This game brings lots of excitement to a little girl who acts as a grandmother of a day. Parents must allow their kids to use necessary stuff and other fancies. And at the end of the game the girl with nicest look can be awarded.
Pimp For A Day
Thud. Silence.
It certainly doesn't make the heart flutter like the old "Queen for a Day" show of the '50s. And, believe me, no woman in her right mind would choose to win the chance to be a widow for even one day, if she knew what she was getting into, even if she knew there would be prizes at the end.
Yet, of the hundreds of widows I know from work on my book, For Widows Only!*, all but a few would jump through hoops to go back and be "Wife for a Day." Do you have any idea how much widows envy wives?
Believe me, it's not that they want your husbands; it's that they want their own husbands back, warts and all. That's despite the fact that more than half our marriages end in divorce, and most of the other half aren't so happy either. Most marriages aren't what brides pictured when they said, "I do."
Yes, I think being "widow for a day" might be the best thing that ever happened to you, and your prize will be a happier marriage while he is with you.
Try this exercise. Pretend you are a new widow, all day and into the evening. Keep a journal of the day. It will work best if your husband is out of town, or gone most of the day. But even if he's there, pretend he isn't. Imagine, as best you can, how you would feel.
Even if you have children at home, pretend to be a new widow for one day. On my For Widows Only support website, there are more than 650 real-life widows, far too many of whom are in their 20s and 30s. It happens. If you're old enough to be married, you are old enough to be widowed.
All that day, think about how your imagine your life would be without him: o Would you have enough money to live on?
Would you enjoy making all the decisions'o What would you do for the holidays?
Who would drive you to the doctor's office or hospital?
Would you like taking vacations alone?
Who would do the chores that he now does?
All day and into the night, think about what your life would be like if he wasn't ever coming home. No one to call with good news...or bad. No one to stop for milk on the way home or settle the kids' fights or take out the trash or clean the garage or install a shelf or trim a tree...or smile and say, "I love you."
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