Most people want to succeed in a career that is more fulfilling and meaningful than what they have now. In addition they want to be happy and live a good life. Of course each person has their own take on how they envision this goal.
What is it that you want in your life? How do you picture your success? Can you describe your personal definition of success?
As you think about your vision of success do you find any worries and concerns bubbling to the surface? It's possible you have conflicting definitions of success simultaneously running around in your mind. Your internal conflict creates confusion and turmoil as you try to make progress toward a goal that's at cross purposes with itself.
As a way to explore what's happening within you, ask yourself the following four questions. As you answer the following questions, I encourage you to write down your answers so you can refer back to what you've written.
Four Questions about Success
1) From your perspective, what is society's picture of success?
2) What was your parent's definition of success for themselves? (You may have a different answer for your mother and father so write down both.)
3) What was your parent's definition of success for you? (Again, the messages - stated or inferred - may be different for each parent.)
4) What's your definition of success for yourself?
Making Sense of Your Answers
After you've written down your answers to these questions, read your responses again. What do you notice?
Keeping your responses in mind, look at the questions below to understand what you are learning about yourself.
1) Is your definition of success the same as or different from:
-- Your parent's picture for your success?
-- Your parent's sense of success for themselves?
-- Society's definition of success?
If it's the same, how does that sit with you? If it's different, how do you feel about that?
2) Think about your life--how much do these other definitions of success impact how you think about your life and the actions you take in life?
-- Are you troubled or worried about not living up to someone else's definition of success?
-- Do you worry about what others think of your choices and decisions?
-- Do you feel supported by the other definitions of success?
-- Do you see elements of success within yourself that are in conflict?
3) Do you believe you deserve to reach and live your picture of success?
-- If not, what's standing in your way?
-- Is so, what's your next step?
If you've been living under someone else's definition, how can you revise your own definition of success so that it more truly reflects who you are and what you stand for?
What to Do Next
There are numerous ways these messages weave their way into your thoughts and actions. Growing up in your parent's household meant that their messages surrounded you day in and day out for most of your youth. At first it's hard to see the impact these definitions have on you today, but once you start to see them, you begin to notice how they (or your rebellion to them) are entwined in your thoughts, beliefs, and actions.
As you become more aware, consciously uproot the outdated ideas and nurture the ideas you want to live by. Over time as you peel away the old conflicting messages you'll have more energy to create the life you dream of.
Depending on your situation, you may not be able to turn this around in one sitting, but sometimes a very small insight can be the thread that begins to unravel a puzzle that's troubled you for a long time. Keep following the thread of insight to discover your new future.
Copyright 2006 Transition Dynamics Enterprises, Inc.
You're probably wondering, "If you have people on multiple lists, can't you tell it not to send it to these people multiple times?" No, I can't.
Here's the reason:
I have lists with AutoResponse Plus, 1ShoppingCart, and AWeber. I've tried testing for deliverability from different systems, and sometimes I build lists in AWeber for specific promotions or bonus giveaways and that kind of stuff because I know those emails are going to get through really, really well.
Other times, though, I'm just building things in AutoResponse Plus. In the past, I built most of my lists in 1ShoppingCart. So that's why people sometimes get multiple messages from multiple autoresponders.
But here's the thing: If you do that and send multiple messages, you can sometimes end up getting kick-butt responses. This is because people see multiple messages from the same person with the same information. In many cases, it can also be used as a strategy to actually increase your response.
Do some people unsubscribe? Inevitably!
But to tell the truth, I don't test unsubscribe rates, and the reason I don't test unsubscribe rates is because it's depressing. If people don't want to read my messages, I figure they can unsubscribe from my list. If they do enjoy my messages, they can stay on board.
You may also hear all different things about which day to send emails to your list, the best times to send emails, and such. As a general statement, the earlier in the day you send your mail, the better. For more details logon to www.freelist-pro.com. In my experience, that is really what it comes down to. If I send emails to my list later in the day, nine times out of 10, I won't get as much of a response as if I sent them early in the day.
And as far as what day to send them? Every day. That's what I try to do. Then, my lists expect the messages, and many list members look forward to getting a message from Tellman. But you can train your list to look for something from you every day, every week, whatever, but you have to write to your list on a regular basis.
So, there are a lot of things to consider.
People say, ?What's going to get you the most response?? Ultimately, planning ahead and having things pre-sequenced out so you don't have to think of them at the last minute is going to end up building your business the best.
Some autoresponders allow you to set the specific time that you're going to send out. Others just say, ?Send it first thing tomorrow,? on a certain date. Others you actually can't control the time; you can only send it out immediately. For more information visit to www.mailing-lists-manager.com. There are so many factors that come into play when you're talking about how to work with your list. Ultimately, I would say the more you plan ahead and the more you get it out as close to 12:01 AM as you can, the more people are probably going to read your emails.
The whole thing is to build rapport with your list. Send them regular messages and offer them quality information and products. When you do, they come to respect you and look forward to what you have to offer. Building a list is the most important thing you can do as a marketer. The second most important thing is to take care of the people who trust you.
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