The 21st Century Single Mom is not perfect.
However, she has mastered the technique of
sharing her emotions in healthy ways. She is an
encourager to her children by allowing them to
observe and learn how to do the same. She
supports her children in their lives, but, most
importantly she has a life of her own.

One of the biggest mistakes single Moms make is
not forgiving themselves for the inherent
struggles of single parenting and making their
children the center and focus of their lives. It
is unhealthy for the children and the parent.

The 21st Century Single Mom follows her words
with consistent actions. She commands respect by
giving respect. She is firm and holds her
children accountable for their actions. She
inspires them because she is inspired by life and
the growth she sees in her children. She doles
out more and more challenging responsibilities so
her children can grow to become healthy adults.
She is confident and honest, letting her children
see the rewards from adopting this character.

Here are five actions you can take today for a
more invigorating lifestyle that leaves time for
you to enjoy life with your children and have
hope for their future on the road to becoming an
adult.

1. Allow your children to share with you what's
on their mind. Become involved in the things
they enjoy doing. Ask questions about the things
that interest them.

2. Teach your children to tap you gently on the
shoulder while you are engaged in conversation
with others, should they have a desire to
interrupt with a question or concern. This
teaches patience without a sense of urgency at
all times.

3. Play games with them whenever possible.
Through role playing important lessons can be
taught in a fun atmosphere.

4. Join the child on their level. Lower yourself
physically to a child's level by sitting or
bending down. Imagine how intimidating it would
be if everyone in your world were taller or
larger than you.

5. Always take time to interact with your
children. Sacrifice the time, even if there is a
room filled with adults. You would be amazed how
much you enjoy their innocence and
unpretentiousness.

Whether you've become a single mom by choice or
due to circumstances, realize there will be
moments when your whole world is upside down.
But you always have a choice. Go ahead and cry
for a minute. Then figure out how this setback
can be turned into an opportunity.

If you want to inspire your children to greatness,
you must dare to be great yourself. If you want
them to develop the skills to enjoy lives full of
fun, joy, accomplishment, with an ability to
overcome life's challenges that present
opportunities and rewards, then you must make
your own life an example.