The 21st Century Single Mom is not perfect.



However, she has mastered the technique of

sharing her emotions in healthy ways. She is an

encourager to her children by allowing them to

observe and learn how to do the same. She

supports her children in their lives, but, most

importantly she has a life of her own.

One of the biggest mistakes single Moms make is

not forgiving themselves for the inherent

struggles of single parenting and making their

children the center and focus of their lives. It

is unhealthy for the children and the parent.

The 21st Century Single Mom follows her words

with consistent actions. She commands respect by

giving respect. She is firm and holds her

children accountable for their actions. She

inspires them because she is inspired by life and

the growth she sees in her children. She doles

out more and more challenging responsibilities so

her children can grow to become healthy adults.

She is confident and honest, letting her children

see the rewards from adopting this character.

Here are five actions you can take today for a

more invigorating lifestyle that leaves time for

you to enjoy life with your children and have

hope for their future on the road to becoming an

adult.

1. Allow your children to share with you what's

on their mind. Become involved in the things

they enjoy doing. Ask questions about the things

that interest them.

2. Teach your children to tap you gently on the

shoulder while you are engaged in conversation

with others, should they have a desire to

interrupt with a question or concern. This

teaches patience without a sense of urgency at

all times.

3. Play games with them whenever possible.

Through role playing important lessons can be

taught in a fun atmosphere.

4. Join the child on their level. Lower yourself

physically to a child's level by sitting or

bending down. Imagine how intimidating it would

be if everyone in your world were taller or

larger than you.



5. Always take time to interact with your

children. Sacrifice the time, even if there is a

room filled with adults. You would be amazed how

much you enjoy their innocence and

unpretentiousness.

Whether you've become a single mom by choice or

due to circumstances, realize there will be

moments when your whole world is upside down.

But you always have a choice. Go ahead and cry

for a minute. Then figure out how this setback

can be turned into an opportunity.

If you want to inspire your children to greatness,

you must dare to be great yourself. If you want

them to develop the skills to enjoy lives full of

fun, joy, accomplishment, with an ability to

overcome life's challenges that present

opportunities and rewards, then you must make

your own life an example.