Of course you can ask her out again if you want to... I
understand that what you want is probably to move on. You do
want to forget about her but the belief that you could get
back together holds you back, right?

So, here are some reasons that would stop you from asking
her out in the future:

She broke up with you. This means that she no longer wants
to be with you. Unless she gives you clear signs that she
changed her mind, she will probably reject your offer.

She might have someone else in her life, be married or be
committed. She might perceive you as needy or clingy. The
reasons why she wanted to break up with you in the first
place are still there.

She did outgrow the relationship. She knows everything about
you and the sense of excitement you feel when you meet
someone for the first time is no longer there.

Now the best way to move on is to understand everything you
need to understand from a break up. This means really seeing
the reasons for the end of the relationship so that you can
make appropriate changes in the way you stand in a
relationship in the future.

Sometimes, this means making subtle changes in the way you
approach a relationship like getting rid of jealousy and
possessiveness, giving her different attention, focusing on
fun rather than long term security, etc.

There can be dozens of reason for a relationship to "dry
out" or become limiting for one or both partners. Find out
exactly what the limiting factor for her was. Was it simply
falling out of love? Meeting someone new? Tensions in your
relationship? Something else?

Take some time to find out. It is extremely important to
take a moment, a week to a month, to understand what you
would do differently if you were in a new relationship.

There is something else to accept as well: natural
relationship life span. Nowadays, this life span is much
shorter than it was 50 or 100 years ago. The average
marriage lasts 7 years in the US. A couple who divorces is
not an exception, it is a norm.

Partners simply seem to explore most aspects of the
relationship faster and reach this point where they simply
want to move out and find something new. I think this has to
do with modern needs in human nature.

Sometimes, it is easier to simply accept this natural cycle
and move on rather than trying to stretch a relationship
with focus and determination.

You can see it that way: a relationship which ends after 7
years, or 3 or 12 or 1 year, did not fail; it simply comes
to a natural end. It was successful while it lasted. The end
of a cycle does not mean failure; it can mean call for a new
one or a new beginning.

I am aware that not everyone will embrace this idea.

You can blame yourself, think that it was a mistake, feel
guilt, pressure and judgment from yourself and society or
you can simply let go and think:

"You know what? I did my best. There seems to be forces at
play which are stronger. These forces have another plan in
mind. Let's see what happens if I simply go with the
flow..."

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