Of course you can ask her out again if you want to... I



understand that what you want is probably to move on. You do

want to forget about her but the belief that you could get

back together holds you back, right?

So, here are some reasons that would stop you from asking

her out in the future:

She broke up with you. This means that she no longer wants

to be with you. Unless she gives you clear signs that she

changed her mind, she will probably reject your offer.

She might have someone else in her life, be married or be

committed. She might perceive you as needy or clingy. The

reasons why she wanted to break up with you in the first

place are still there.

She did outgrow the relationship. She knows everything about

you and the sense of excitement you feel when you meet

someone for the first time is no longer there.

Now the best way to move on is to understand everything you

need to understand from a break up. This means really seeing

the reasons for the end of the relationship so that you can

make appropriate changes in the way you stand in a

relationship in the future.

Sometimes, this means making subtle changes in the way you

approach a relationship like getting rid of jealousy and

possessiveness, giving her different attention, focusing on

fun rather than long term security, etc.

There can be dozens of reason for a relationship to "dry

out" or become limiting for one or both partners. Find out

exactly what the limiting factor for her was. Was it simply

falling out of love? Meeting someone new? Tensions in your

relationship? Something else?

Take some time to find out. It is extremely important to

take a moment, a week to a month, to understand what you

would do differently if you were in a new relationship.

There is something else to accept as well: natural

relationship life span. Nowadays, this life span is much

shorter than it was 50 or 100 years ago. The average

marriage lasts 7 years in the US. A couple who divorces is

not an exception, it is a norm.

Partners simply seem to explore most aspects of the

relationship faster and reach this point where they simply

want to move out and find something new. I think this has to

do with modern needs in human nature.

Sometimes, it is easier to simply accept this natural cycle

and move on rather than trying to stretch a relationship

with focus and determination.

You can see it that way: a relationship which ends after 7

years, or 3 or 12 or 1 year, did not fail; it simply comes

to a natural end. It was successful while it lasted. The end

of a cycle does not mean failure; it can mean call for a new

one or a new beginning.

I am aware that not everyone will embrace this idea.

You can blame yourself, think that it was a mistake, feel

guilt, pressure and judgment from yourself and society or

you can simply let go and think:

"You know what? I did my best. There seems to be forces at

play which are stronger. These forces have another plan in

mind. Let's see what happens if I simply go with the

flow..."

I am sure this makes sense to you, right? If you still

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