Marriage separation isn't exactly fun for anyone, but for those who have spouses that are capable of being dangerous - it's downright scary. If you feel as though your spouse is dangerous or could become dangerous during your separation, it's extremely important that you protect yourself. This article discusses just how to protect yourself during a separation from your dangerous spouse.



Start Planning Your Escape Early -

This is very important. Before you leave or separate from your spouse, you need to plan what you're going to do. Do you have enough money to leave or is your spouse the one who controls the finances? When you do leave, where are you going to go and how will you avoid your angry spouse? These are very important questions that you will need to think about while you're planning your escape.

If need be, start hiding money so that you will have enough to see you through your separation. Another thing you should do is have a close confidant - someone you can speak to without the fear that the information will get back to your spouse. If possible, plan to stay with this person when you leave your spouse.

Obtain Support When You Leave Your Spouse -

At this time, it's essential that you have a support group around you. Of course, your family and friends will be quite important at this time (including your confidant) and they will help you to get through the rough spots. However, you may need legal support as well. Alert the authorities in your hometown of what you're doing and that your spouse could become dangerous.

Hire an attorney if you need to in order to proceed with the marriage separation and join a support group. A support group for other separated or divorced individuals with dangerous spouses can really help you during this time. Being able to talk to someone who has been through what you're going through is priceless.

Obtain Protection through a Restraining Order -

If you believe the above tips are not enough to thwart your spouse from trying to hurt you or your children, obtain a restraining order. This is an order given from a judge which clearly advises your spouse not to come within so many feet of you, not to call or contact you in any way and more. It lets your spouse know that the authorities have been alerted to the fact that he or she may be dangerous and that at the first sign of harassment, your spouse will be arrested. Sometimes, the danger is real enough to need a restraining order and you can obtain one by visiting your local police station or court clerk.

When you are separating from a dangerous spouse, be sure to get your plan in place, obtain support and if need be, secure a restraining order so that you can protect yourself. This will help you remain safe while you seek a divorce from your spouse.