Of course you know that you could meet women if you really wanted to. It doesn't take an astronaut or a brain surgeon to figure out how to pick up a cute girl. After all, if that humanized platypus Kevin Federline has a chance with Britney Spears, how difficult a thing is it to get a date? Allow yourself some dignity and accept the fact that there are millions of girls to choose from, but not all of them will be right for you. Therefore, rather than waste time despairing in loneliness or putting yourself down, try and take a more positive approach to your dating life.



Decide first if you are ready to date (if you can emotionally handle the issues involved) and then create a plan of action, organized by individual goals. Now is where you decide what you are looking for. This doesn't mean that you have to create your perfect woman precisely. Compromising and adapting to circumstances are one of the greatest joys in romance and one of the true tests in genuine love. However, you should still have a clear view of what you want in mind, even if the face of your future girlfriend remains a mystery.

Don't deceive yourself. Be honest and don't be ashamed of who you are. Some men are only after sex when they go looking for a date. As long as they are at peace with that, and do not misrepresent themselves to the women they are dating, there should be no problem. That may or may not be what you want, but you should be prepared to deal with these issues. Other men may be looking for more than just a good time. Maybe they want a commitment and would like to eventually have a family.

After deciding on what you want, it is important to target the type of woman that is right for you and your dating attitude. If all you want is sex then don't go looking for a clingy and insecure woman who you're only going to hurt in the long run. Don't lie or misrepresent yourself. It earns you a bad reputation over time, and if you believe in karma, then you may have another thing coming some day. Be upfront about what you want and who you are. Not only is this honest, but it's very attractive to women who are tired of dealing with weaklings, liars and cowards. Real men ooze sexuality became of who they are, not who they pretend to be.

You can attract a certain type of woman by how you represent yourself in public and where you travel to find dates. Going to a bar or club and talking about sex right away will obviously attract a certain type of woman: either sexually forward or desperate. On the other hand, if you behave conservatively, talk about real life, and meet women under more sophisticated surroundings, you may attract a woman that wants to be loved for her personality, not just her looks.

Remember that every little thing you do is in someway representative of who you are. If you dress nice every time you go out then you are giving off signals. If you smile innocently or sneer in cockiness when you meet new people, then you are giving off very different vibes. If you have a quick wit and can't resist cracking jokes when talking to women, then you are earning the reputation as a funny guy. If you are nice and overly sentimental to most of the women you meet, then you may be establishing a role as a friend rather than a lover. If you remain quiet during most conversations with strangers, then you may be signaling that you're not really looking for just any girl. Think about how you come across to others, and what your subtle behavior may be saying about your lifestyle. You may be attracting a certain type of girl—but is she the right girl for you?