Telling yourself you have to "struggle with this



weight issue for the rest of my life," is as good

as telling yourself there's no point in trying.

"Why bother? I'll just gain it right back. It's no

use. I might as well eat more cake. Poor me. Life

is hard. You know the drill. Life's a beach.

Stop the struggle by stopping the self talk that

supports the struggle. You've heard it before -

what you focus on is what you receive. No where is

that more true than in believing it is a struggle

to stay healthy. Who would want to be healthy if

it's such a horrible struggle? Yet, you've

probably seen people who are fit, healthy and

happy? You might even know a few. They seem to

bounce when they walk. They're animated, and

excited about life, and no, if you asked them,

they wouldn't say it's a struggle. "What do you

mean," they'd ask? Struggle? Nah, I like it this

way," and they'd mean it.

Forget the notion that you have to struggle and

eat celery sticks for dinner. It's not true.

Despite the fact that you've lost the weight

before and gained it right back too, despite your

belief that you can't even look at food without

gaining weight. All of those thoughts are just

more beliefs that are keeping you stuck. What you

focus on becomes your reality.

What if You Never Got Hungry?

I'm a prime example. I don't struggle. Some days I

eat a lot. Some days not so much. Some days very

little. Yesterday I ate my usual breakfast and

then, strangely, I just didn't feel hungry all

day. I felt different somehow. Not ill, but I just

didn't want to eat. "What's up with this?," I

thought to myself, but I decided to just ride it

out and see what happened. Well, I'm here to tell

you that nothing happened. I lived to tell another

story, see another day. Nothing fell from the sky

and the world didn't stop spinning because I

didn't eat much yesterday. It was just another

day.

Today I ate a few handfuls of malted milk balls.

No big deal to me, but I know many of you are

thinking, "I'd never be able to eat just some, I'd

have to eat them all," and that is my point.

Telling yourself you can't eat "some," or as many

as you want, but that you believe you'd be

compelled to eat them all, no matter how many

there were is a belief that is keeping you stuck.

I don't believe that to be true, and so, for me it

is not true.

Changing a Fundamental Belief with EFT

How do you change a fundamental belief? You start

with basic EFT using it for everything that comes

up, even though it may not seem related. Every

worry, fear, doubt, struggle. Use it on

everything, and those issues that do make a

difference in your eating will start dissolving

away. Try it - what have you got to lose but some

weight?

What's EFT? It's Emotional Freedom Training and

it's taking the world by storm as an easy, self

administered practice to help reduce or eliminate

the emotional issues that keep us stuck. Free

information available at EmoFree.com. I added EFT

to my toolkit as soon as I learned it because it's

easy to learn, easy to use, and it's effective.

Remember those healthy folks I mentioned earlier?

They don't view how they eat or how much they

exercise as a struggle at all. They are active

because they want to be active, and they eat foods

that make them feel great. They probably eat a lot

of the same things you eat too - I'm talking about

everyday folks who have learned to feel good about

themselves. None of them are perfect - despite the

common belief that there is some "perfect" body,

it's just not true. Everyone has a wrinkle here,

extra skin there. Every single one of us is flawed

in some way or another. It's what makes us unique.

Choose to focus on the benefits, rather than the

sacrifice

Everything worthwhile takes effort - having a baby

comes to mind. All mothers will likely agree that

childbirth has its down side, but the ultimate

reward makes it all worth it (yes, some women feel

great while pregnant, but I wasn't one of them).

Otherwise, everyone would be a single child. ;-)

Think about it.

Becoming a professional musician or baseball

player comes to many who played Little League and

started practicing the piano when they were very

small. Tiger Woods was only 3 or 4-years old when

his father first taught him to hold a golf club.

He also showed him videos of professional golfers

when he sat in his high chair eating his dinner

(his dad was a little odd, I'd say). Woods started

playing golf at such a young age that he literally

grew up playing the game. He wanted to play. His

father undoubtedly drove him to work harder at it

than most children would, but he had to have a

strong drive of his own or he never would have

made it. But what if he'd hit 6-year's old and

suddenly said to himself, "I don't want to

practice. I hate golf. I wanna play with my

friends. I'll never be any good at his stupid

game."

Maybe things would have turned out differently.

The bottom line though is he did what he did

because he wanted to (his parents obviously had a

lot to do with it too), and the reward? Today he's

considered the most gifted golfer of all time, and

to what does he attribute his success? The

practice and discipline of his mind. He learned

from one of his primary coaches to harness the

power of his mind - using NLP and hypnosis

techniques (and likely he's since started to use

EFT as well). Learn to use your mind to focus on

the results you want - or conversely focus on

avoiding what you do not want, and you'll win your

prize, loving the process, instead of dreading it.

How to Get Started

Starting from right now, go get a box of

toothpicks or something similar. Match sticks

would work too, or marbles, or pencils, small

rocks or twigs from the yard. Something small

enough you can carry it with you. Whenever you

catch yourself starting to say something negative

like, "I don't want to ..., or, "I hate ...," or

"I'm gonna strangle ..." Anything negative you

catch yourself saying or beginning to say, whether

towards yourself or someone else doesn't matter.

Start noticing how often you're feeding yourself

negative energy. Then, apply the STOP technique as

soon as you realize you are doing it, you yell (to

yourself) STOP, and immediately replace what you

were saying with something else. Here's what I

mean:

"I hate having to wash the ... STOP ... it's nice

getting a chance to stretch and bend while the car

gets cleaned."

Yes, it's stiff and forced, at first. Anytime you

attempt to change a behavior it will feel forced.

Just allow yourself to learn to change your self

talk, and that early discomfort with the process

will pass. It will start to be fun to "catch"

yourself. As soon as you start doing it, you'll

realize how often you're been feeding yourself

negativity, and you'll also see how easily you can

change that habit.

Positive people tend to be happier people. I'm not

suggesting you get a personality change, but I am

suggesting, if you ultimately want to drop some

weight and never see it again that you change your

thinking from how much you'll have to struggle to

how much better you're going to feel.