If you're in a relationship that is about over - meaning the relationship seems to have fizzled out how are you going to end it? One of you has to. Some times relationships will keep going long after the "spark" is gone because ending a relationship can be very hard. Does breaking up have to be difficult? If you've been thinking "how do I end a relationship" so that neither of us gets hurt here is some helpful tips.



1. First you need to be very clear as to why you want the relationship to stop. The "easiest" reason that pops into your head may not be the real reason at all. Dig down deep and be sure you have a clear understanding of why you want the relationship to end.

2. Be honest with yourself and your partner. Now isn't the time to beat around the bush or fabricate lies. In most cases people deserve honesty. In the end each of you will be better off if you are truthful regarding the break up.

3. Whenever possible, end the relationship face to face. Avoid breaking up over the phone. If you and your soon to be ex live far from each other then it is better to break up over the phone vs. waiting for a time when you can be together. Do it sooner than later.

4. Be compassionate. The break up should not be nasty or mean especially if you want to stay friends later. Be sympathetic to their feelings as well as your own.

5. When considering "how do I end a relationship" remember not to put your partner on the defensive. Don't throw out accusation after accusation. Talk about the wonderful times and the memories that you will embrace. Try to respond to their needs during the break up if possible.

Ending a relationship is very hard most of the times. If you are wondering "how do I end a relationship" without harming someone of course there are no guarantees. We can not predict how another person will react or how emotional they will get. But if you follow this advice breaking up can be made a little easier for both parties involved.