In case you are wondering, being a peacemaker does not mean that you let people walk all over you, and it does not mean that you never offer your opinion or say how you feel about something. It simply means that you find a peaceable solution.



It really is possible to disagree without having an argument, here are some keys to help you avoid arguments and keep the peace.

Disagree respectfully. People handle disagreements better when you don't make them feel as if their opinion is ridiculous or doesn't matter.

Disagree wisely. If you are going to disagree with someone, you need to do it wisely. Think through how you will disagree before you open your mouth. The key to peace in disagreement is how you express your opinion.

Do not try to change the other person's opinion. Be careful that you do not move into manipulation and try to get the other person to agree with you. You do not have to try and change their opinion, simply state your own.

Allow people to have a different opinion to yours. Say what you think and leave it at that. It is important that you allow people to have their own opinions. Give people the freedom to be who they are and think what they think.

Search for a compromise. Consider that your opinion might be no more right than theirs and aim to find a solution that you are both reasonably happy with.

Give up your right to be right. Sometimes you need to allow someone to go ahead and do something their way even when you strongly disagree. When you can do that and keep a good attitude, you will have less conflict.

Given time you will develop your own ways of disagreeing without arguing. The first step is being aware of the value of learning how to disagree without arguing. The key to a peaceful outcome is to respect other people enough to allow them the freedom to disagree.

How can you be a peacemaker without letting people walk all over you? Find ways of respecting other people's opinion without feeling that you need to change your own. When you allow other people the freedom to be themselves and show more respect for their opinions you will find that you can disagree without having an argument.