The first big step in moving from an online relationship to one in the real world is talking on the phone for the first time. As a guy, you are probably going to be ready to take that step before your online match. With good reason, women approach online dating a bit more cautiously than men. Your best chance to talk to her on the phone and eventually meet her is to allow things to move forward at a pace she feels comfortable. You should be willing to take things slow and let her be in the driver's seat. When you want to talk to her on the phone, simply let her know that you are willing to give her your number when she is ready.



Get A Few Calling Cards

There is a good possibility that you will end up communicating with women that are outside your local calling area. Local toll calls can be quite expensive. A way around this is to get a calling card. Costco has calling cards for 2.9 cents a minute, for local and long distance calls. This compares to 10+ cents a minute from your local phone company. Offer your calling card number when you give her your phone number. Over and above the cost savings, it shows the woman that you are thoughtful and considerate. I would suggest that you have several calling cards and you think about using a new one with each woman that you talk with on the phone. If a online match does not work out, you can use the remaining minutes for your own phone calls.

Conversation Topics

Before your online match calls you on the phone, review her profile and your correspondence with her. Use the information from her profile and your correspondence to come up with a few conversation topics. Write down four or five friendly questions that you would like to ask her. Should the conversation drag or you get a little flustered, you can use one of your questions to help get the conversation back on track.

Send An E-Mail After Your First Phone Call

If you had a successful first phone call, before you go to bed, send her a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed talking with her. This accomplishes several things:

1. It lets her know that you are still interested in getting to know her.

2. It terms of the next communication, it puts the ball in her court.

3. Her response will give you a sense of her level of interest.

4. It is the best way to help move the relationship forward without you looking pushy.

Talking on the phone with your online match is a big step. Making sure she feels comfortable is the key to a successful first phone call.