This is also true of the art and science of asking questions, and remember that good questions are critical in effective communication.
I used to be a radio news reporter and announcer, so I've asked more than my share of unscripted questions. And, I'll admit it can be just as difficult to ask a concise question as it is to write a concise document.
In asking questions, and especially when we do it without notes, several things happen. First, we try to provide context that guides the answer. Consider the situation in which a reporter asks this kind of question: "Given that we only have another two months before the end of the season, and given that you're having trouble meeting your budget as it is, do you expect the expansion to proceed?" The concise question, of course, would simply be, "Do you expect the expansion to proceed?"
To avoid this kind of preamble and to make your question more concise, ask yourself who needs the context. In most cases, the person being interviewed doesn't need it.
We might also use long, drawn out questions to give ourselves time to formulate a new question as we speak. We also may ramble as we try to figure out exactly how to word the question, or to achieve some unspoken purpose.
Or, we may ramble if we want to impress the person being questioned, or others. Watch questioners sometimes try to steal the show, in effect, with their questions. They're using the questions as a platform to flaunt their knowledge or promote their position.
Now that we've explored the reasons for questions that are too long, here are a few recommendations:
First, articulate, for yourself, why you're asking the questions and identify what kind of information you want to collect. If it's social chatter, then you're probably just looking for connections between yourself and the other person. On the other hand, if you're interviewing a potential employee, then you'll question strategically, to find out about the other person's character, experience, and expertise.
Second, stay focused on one issue at a time. If you try to gather information about several subjects in one question, you probably won't get useful responses to any of them.
Third, ask follow-up questions. The answer to the first question will give you the basis for the next question, and so on. Probe more deeply or widen the circle with follow-up questions.
Fourth, and perhaps most importantly, listen. Probably no other aspect of interviewing or asking questions is as frequently ignored. All too often, questioners ask their question, but essentially ignore the response as they try to figure out their next question. What we should do instead is look at the other person and listen to the whole message, including the words, the way the words are expressed, and the body language. Only then will we grasp the answer well enough to ask a good follow-up question, one that qualifies as a concise, effective question!
In summary, good questions for effective communication involve knowing what kind of information you want, staying focused on one issue at a time, and listening as carefully as you speak.
Techniques For Effective Communication
Here are four tips that will help you increase your composure when giving an assertive message so that you can present what you have to say with confidence.
Tip One: Speak Immediately
When giving an assertive message it is important to speak about the topic you are concerned with while it is actually occurring - this will keep the flow of communication relevant.
If you wait for hours, days or weeks to approach the problem situation you may experience increased stress and sleepless nights as you brood over the matter. So aim to resolve the problem situation as close to when it is occurring as possible.
Tip Two: Be Direct
It is important to realize that the situation that you are in is primarily affecting yourself, not the other person. In fact, they may not know or even care that their actions are affecting you.
You will need to state the problem to them directly - provide them with an example of the annoying action or behavior. Further to help resolve the problem, it is best to suggest some alternative action that they may take, or ask them to stop doing it directly.
Tip Three: Be Pleasant
When you send an assertive message to another person you are asking them to stop performing some annoying behavior or action, and instead do something less obtrusive. So if you present in a hostile manner it is very unlikely that the other party will take you seriously. In fact it as more likely that you will create a huge scene, and turn your assertive message into an argument!
Instead, take a deep breath and find a pleasant posture. This will help you frame what you need to say in the right manner and your delivery is more likely to be accepted.
Tip Four: Keep Calm
The main risk in giving an assertive message is facing the resistance of the other party. Occasionally the other party may take offense at what you are presenting, or resist without apparent reason.
In these situations it is important to maintain your composure. If you act offensively they will not want to help you. Make up your mind to keep composed even if there is resistance, and repeat your assertive message until it is accepted.
By following these four tips when giving assertive messages you should experience increased confidence and other people are likely to respond to your requests.
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