One of Shakespeare's immortal quotes. He couldn't have hit the nail of today's dating world on the head any harder if he'd been given a sledgehammer.
That's because in the 21st century, love doesn't really mean love. And when love doesn't mean love, it becomes even more blinding than before.
See, when someone says, “We're in love,” what they really mean – whether they realize it or not is another story – that they're infatuated with each other. They feel electricity, they feel a buzz.
That electricity is exciting, it's captivating. I'm not denying its importance. But the hard truth is that it can also cast a smoke screen over the real issues in a relationship. And the fact is that no way can a genuinely happy, loving, dynamic, lifelong relationship develop if the basis consists of nothing but electricity. Life brings a lot of power outages with it, and if a relationship is to survive them, it had better have an emotional generator to give it power.
So how can you tell the difference between plain electricity and an emotional generator?
Ask yourself the four questions.
Ladies and gentlemen, there are just four questions that will help you analyze your relationship to see if it's based on a deeper, emotional connection or on air.
Okay. So, the first question is NOT “Do I love this person?” I repeat, DO NOT ask yourself this question. It will only confuse the issue. If you're thinking to yourself, “Why?” then reread the previous paragraph and come back.
Rather than ask, “Do I love this person?” the first question should be, “Do I admire and respect this person?” Note, we said admire and respect, not impressed. Being impressed means, I'm impressed with her car, with his job, with her looks, with his build. Those are not things that reflect any kind of deep emotional connection.
If you feel that you do admire and respect the person you're dating, then think about exactly what it is that makes you feel that way. Is it a specific characteristic they possess – kindness, generosity, patience? Is it a certain mode of behavior – the way they interact with people, for instance? Be as honest and specific as you can, because respect and admiration form the basic emotional connection that people have with each other.
The next thing to ask yourself is, Do I trust this person? In other words, do you feel that you can rely on them? Do you trust their judgment? Do they keep their word? A corollary of this would be, are they responsible?
The third question is, Do I feel safe? Do you feel emotionally and physically safe with this person? Stated differently, do you trust them with yourself? Can you be vulnerable and open with them; can you express yourself freely, without fear of rejection?
And the final question is, Do I feel calm and at peace with this person? Everybody (I hope) has at least one good friend with whom they just feel relaxed and calm. In its ideal state, marriage is the closest friendship you will ever have, so you definitely want to have that same feeling with your spouse.
Now, answering these questions might take time. If at this point you're still not sure of some of the answers, don't panic. Just keep evaluating the relationship until you understand what you really feel. Obviously, if the relationship has a real future then all of the answers will be “yes.” And if the answer to even one of them is “no,” then it's time to take another look at the relationship, and maybe even to call it quits.
Now, you may be wondering why it is so important to get all of these questions right just now. After all, at this point you're only dating. You're not married yet.
The reason this is so important is that the way you feel with this person now is the way you're going to feel with them after you're married. If you don't feel safe with them now, you won't feel safe later on. If you can't trust them now, you won't be able to trust them once you're married. And the last thing you want or need is to be married to someone whom you don't respect, cannot trust, and with whom you feel unsafe and uneasy.
So put in the effort. Ask yourself the four questions. If you need to, find someone reliable who can walk you through them – that might make it easier for you to really be in touch with your feelings.
But do it. Your life happiness depends on it.
The Definition Of True Love
Take This?.
The ability to fetch a wonderful thought from the universe (just like you pluck a beautiful flower from the garden) and to care about it long enough and to pay it undivided attention such that whoever is the recipient of the thought (be it your partner, your child, your parents or your friend) immediately from that point on feels damn good even if he or she is miles away from you. This is the secret of True Love?..This is the way relationships grow and blossom into a full blown rose flower?
Strength does not lie in licking a woman's breast; even a stray dog can do that. Strength is always the power of a beautiful thought not the domination of the muscle. The strength of a muscle can break a dozen bones but it cannot travel beyond a certain distance. A glorious thought however can travel leap years ahead, beyond continents and beyond the realm of time and space. It can deliver messages at lightening speed and can rebuild a million lives and bring smile to humanity. It is that powerful.
Attention to a caring or authentic thought is what is love .Every other thing is a stray dogs meal.
So what are the qualities of a great relationship?
The first and foremost is to FEEL DAMN GOOD ! If you don't feel good reading this email, if you don't feel good talking to someone, if you don't feel good when someone walks into your house then there is a good chance that you really do not care about the relationship too much?.
So feeling good is the highest attribute of a great relationship. Everything else is secondary. You have to learn the ability to fall in love with your thoughts?And then love in all forms be it money, relationships or health will come knocking at your doors. You can sitting in a remote corner of the world send out a wonderful and caring thought and the person at the other end can immediately feel damn good?. Thoughts are way too powerful it is just that you have not experienced its power, its strength.
John once told me that that poverty is a state of mind being broke is only a passing phase. You don't have to regret being broke He had experienced the downside of life?
Hatred and animosity towards your partner is a state of mind facing big time problems in your relationships is a passing phase. You can turn the tables around very quickly?
Feeling low and weak is a state of mind , current health problems is only a passing phase.
You should not mistake the current circumstances to be your destiny. They are only a passing phase what is permanent is your thoughts, your state of mind. That is where you have to begin the work. If you pay too much attention to the current events surrounding you then you become a play tool of circumstances and events . You got to learn the fine art of holding on to fewer thoughts, of breaking focus of your day to day problems and caring about your thoughts?.
Would you like to learn the fine art of sitting in a remote corner and sending a caring thought to your partner who is miles away from you and the moment you release this loving thought he or she feels damn good ? Would you like to learn that skill?
Would you like to fetch a powerful thought, an idea, nourish it take care of it, give it legs feed it with strength and then send this loving thought to the universe and the universe in turn hands you cash?? A Million dollars or more. Would you like to experience this? You think all this is fun, philosophical bookish? Damn It ! They are all a piece of cake. All great things were backed up by blazing clarity of thoughts. Go back and re-read history and you will see that most of the millionaires and rich people were broke or average at a certain point of their life?.
Ditto with Health?. There have been cases where cancer has been cured with the power of thoughts. This is no joke. I am not hear to have fun. I don't enjoy writing ordinary mails. My mails reach the recipients heart faster than the Fedex guys'I am pretty serious with what I do. John would seem casual on occasions but he has a mighty heart, a reservoir of spiritual energy and so he can afford to play with certain things. Not you and me?
The moment of truth has arrived?.
Problem is the obstacle and Problem is the key. For Problems according to ancient scriptures is the guardian of knowledge. The supreme obstacle is the supreme door.
You can chose with all your might to overcome problems and knock it down and even if you are successful you will find that a new wall has already been formed behind the existing one. It is a never ending game a totally futile action a, complete waste of energy. Would you like to continue doing this or would you like to open the secret door to experiencing true love , because love is money, love is relationships and love is great health? It is a piece of cake as clear as the blue sky you can see it with both eyes all you need is insight, a spark of curiosity , a collision with feeling if you will?.
A murmur in the soul tells of a world to be?says the great John Harricharan . I am pretty sure there is no soul in this earth save a few who knows his real strength. He is a mighty warrior who can save a million souls he has got that strength. I have seen and experienced it. He is the real deal ? The time to unlock his reservoir has finally arrived? You are damn lucky to be living in an age where John is physically alive. Go and re-read what I have written above and compare it to the best texts you have written and you will see that there is something in this mail which touches your deepest being, which bruises your ego, causes a rash in your body. Thoughts are mighty powerful. They can generate wealth, build homes, and bring a smile onto your face. I would like to see one in your being this moment right now?.
Come join us in this epic Power Pause Workshop and we will completely transform your life . We will hand over all these skills on a platter. It would be fun, adventurous and breathtaking. This is no ordinary workshop? You got to experience it ?.
Imagine the joy you would feel when you are able to fetch a wonderful thought from the universe and send it to the universe and the universe in turn helps you generate tons of cash, builds your relationship and automatically takes care of your health. You think this is a dream. You could say so because there are handful few in this world who are living this dream. And today is your golden chance to do so.
So just to recap this is what you take away with you as a Power Pause Workshop Attendee:
1) The Complete Power Pause Kit which includes the PDF book with bundles of other Bonuses which currently sells for $97. You get it as a physical shipment in the form of a CD.
2) The Complete Video of Power pause(not yet released to the pubic selling in private circles for $197. You get it as a gift once you join this program). You get this in the form of a DVD.
3) Four High Powered Teleseminars by John where he takes live case studies and shows you step by step in a gentle and caring manner how great tools are identified and personalized and how you can turn your back on to problems and recreate the magical colours of life? He has never done this before. This is a great challenge to him and it is going to work wonders for you..Even if you miss this call the entire call would be recorded and the transcript also available to you as a download.
4) Six Member Mastermind Group . Four State of the Art Group Calls which will be intense, personal and taken care of by me. I will personally put you in groups of six so that you get sufficient chance to get up and close with me. This would the perfect icing on the cake and it would be so wonderful to be sharing with each of you those great tools which John has personally taught me and which has worked magic into my life.
The stage is set for a grand finale? All you got to do is enter the field and the rest we will take care?. You will look back on this day with pride, with a smile which nature will endorse, Dreams will turn real?. Love will work its way into your thoughts, you will experience sudden jerks and suddenly you will be transported into a world full of abundance, prosperity where you can feel, touch, laugh and cry with a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Get it if you want to , ignore it at your own risk and if you chose the latter, it will still stay around you ,giving you another opportunity. Why delay the inevitable ? This is the day this is the time this is the moment. The moment of truth has arrived. You are just one click away from experiencing the magic of life. Hold yourself no more. Break free and dance your way into life? 38 slots remain? Reserve your spot right now?..
Love and Affection
Vish
In studying books we are sometimes deluded into thinking that thereby we are being spiritually helped; but , if we analyse the effects of the study of books on ourselves, we shall find that at the utmost, it is only our intellect that derives profit from such studies, and not our inner spirit. This inadequacy of books to quicken spiritual growth is the reason why, although almost everyone of us can speak most wonderfully on spiritual life, we find ourselves so awfully deficient. To quicken the spirit, the impulse must come from another soul. Today is your chance to meet up with a gigantic spirit . Hold yourself no more. Break free and dance your way into life?. http://www.TotalBusinessSystem.com/app/javanof.asp?MerchantID=92700&ProductID=3785346
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