A father's role in parenting may seem mundane and unimportant compared to everything else that he has to do during the week. After all, his career keeps him busy and with this fast paced society he rarely has time to unwind. Times are really changing these days and the world is definitely changing around us. If there is one thing that never changes it is a fathers important role of raising his children to become productive adults.



There are basically 5 ways that the father's role in parenting helpls the whole family (whether they are with the children's mother or not).

1. Give the mother respect. It doesnt matter whether you live with the childrens mother are not she deserves your respect. By giving her respect you teach the children to have respect for her and for others. By respecting each other parents give their children a sense of stability and security, even and perhaps especially if they are no longer together. I seeing their parents respect each other children tend to feel that they are respected and accepted.

2. Spend time with your children and your family. If you are with the children's mother, spend time with her individually and spend time with the children. It is important that your children witness you and your wife cultivating a strong marriage. They also need to see you spending time with your family. Children learn what they live and if they live in a home that is disconnected and distant, they will grow up that way. On the other hand, if they grow up in a family that does things together and a father who spends time with them, they will grow up with a stronger sense of security.

3. Be a positive role model. Live your life in a way that you would want your child to when your child is your age. Demonstrate to your child the positives in life. Being a positive role model for your child shows them that it is possible to follow the rules that you have set and still be happy and productive as an adult. There are so many role models available that have bad habits is important that we give our children good role models to look up to so they dont feel that humanity has become inhumane.

4. Teach the children. Being a teacher is so much more than handing them the basic lessons they learned in school. Your children need a teacher in the classroom called life. The subject matter that they learn in your life classes include lessons in respect, love, choice and decision making and the knowledge of the right from wrong. Being their father puts you in the most important teaching position. Your classroom is life, your bulletin board is the behaviors that you demonstrate and your bonus pay is getting to watch your child grow into a confident adult.

5. Lead your family by being the head of the home. The most important part of being a father and definitely most important father's role in parenting is being the head of the household. This is a responsibility that you cannot take lightly. The leader of the family leads his family by example and takes charge in all situations. Having a strong leader allows your family to feel secure and safe.

Being a strong leader does not mean being a dictator. Being a strong leader does not mean being bossy. Being a strong leader does not mean being abusive. By being a strong leader you gently but firmly leach your family, you set a good example for your family to follow, you teach your family and you learn from your family. A good leader never undervalues those that he is in charge of.

Do not undervalue the father's role in parenting. With the father's firmness, discipline and his example of helping others coupled with a mother's warmness your family will grow with positive values and the self confidence for productive and happy lives.