This applies to all areas of your life, and I think balance is massively important. The people who seek great wealth tend to have a poor quality of life, but the people who seek quality of life are the wealthiest people I know. It’s unfortunate, and I have been there, how we can get preoccupied with one area of life and all the other areas suffer. So keep this in mind as you apply this concept.



I think all of us who are into personal development know of this idea that; your mind only dreams the things that you can achieve, and once you believe your dream all kinds of events will come together to make it happen for you. There is a theory that what you want moves towards you as you move towards it...but we need to move towards it.

So down to business, right?

I have always heard that two things you can’t do at the same time is make excuses and be successful. Even more than that, and the concept that sparked this topic in my mind, is:

The one thing you can’t do is say you can’t.

Think about this; if you want to make your dreams a reality...if you want a happy relationship...if you want to get good at ANYTHING...the one thing you can’t do is say you can’t, if you do it’s over.

Next time you say “I can’t do that"...change it and say “I won’t do that", then does it still make sense to you? The ideas that come into you wouldn’t be there if you couldn’t do them.

I will give you one example; I think most people wake up on Monday and are not happy about where they are about to go. Now you may say “I can’t leave my job"...that’s a good excuse, but what it really is, is “I won’t leave my job". Does it still make sense why you are there?

Don’t get me wrong, if you are not happy about your job, don’t run and quit! Purpose is not happiness, pain and pleasure is the pursuit of purpose. But you need to do what you can link to your values. When you are working on your values, you can put your heart into it, and you will enjoy what you do...for the most part.

You are the CEO of your life, and you can give yourself permission to; achieve, have, do, be anything you want. So where do you direct your energy? Where the rewards of learning that new skill outweigh the “cost" of learning it, and remember this principle of success: you will get back all that you give out.

Now think of at least 5 things that you have been saying, well I can’t do that. Stop reading, this will still be here in half an hour.

There are a few of the reasons why you have been programmed why you won’t do something, not can’t, but won’t:

Fear of what will other people say? You cannot set goals based on what other people want! To do that is an imbalance of your life. The people who matter will support you, and the people who don’t support you don’t matter!

Fear of failure; we only have 2 choices in life, success or failure, and you are always making a decision to do one or the other. And if you are not living the life you want to, you are failing, plain and simple.

Fear of success! This to me is the WORST! People today are worried about winning, they think for some reason they don’t deserve it. They feel like they are stepping on someone’s toes (or something). You deserve to succeed, everyone has the right to.

They are all Fears, I am not sure if Zig Ziglar came up with this acronym, but he is who I heard it from first...I have heard it numerous times since:

F-alse

E-vidence

A-ppearing

R-eal

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would your life look like? Your failure is in the 6 inch space between your ears. You are endowed for greatness, and you are supposed to let your dreams design, and guide your life.

Don’t let something you IMAGINE, destroy your chance to live your dream!

Don’t let anyone talk you out of your dream!

Remember, you are someone too.

You can’t say can’t,

Jay Kanik

http://cashcanoe.com