Just about everyone has been in love with someone who didn't love them back. Instead, while you're waiting for your perfect match, or the person you're want, it's okay to date others. It keeps your options open. You can learn what you like and you might realize you're unattainable crush isn't what you want, after all. And if he or she still is, you'll have a much more successful dating relationship when you do get together if you're sure.



Get Out There

Successful dating requires making yourself available. How do you know if Mr. Perfect or Ms. Right is really who you want unless you're meeting other people? Even if you're not necessarily interested in dating anyone else, it gives you the opportunity to make new friends and you can probably run into some pretty cool people.

This also gives you the opportunity to present a side to yourself that Mr. Perfect or Ms. Right doesn't know about. Your fun, you don't sit around moping and other people like you. Successful dating sometimes has just as much to do with perception as it does the actual relationship.

Some ways to get out there and enjoy successful dating relationships while waiting for the one you want include:

• Taking a college class

• Going to the bar

• Going to church

• Partaking in community events

• Joining a club or organization

• Volunteering

Explore Other Options

If you're not dating someone, it's okay to date other people. To have a successful dating relationship, you need to know what you want. If you've never dated, or only dated a few times and then met someone you think is perfect, you're setting yourself up for failure. By dating several people, you know what you like in the people you date: characteristics, personality, dislikes and interests. It gives you the opportunity to learn something new and find out more about yourself, as well. If the person you want is dating someone else, or interested in someone else, try dating other people. Make the most of the time you have. For successful dating to be successful, you need to know you want the thing you have. You don't want to get Mr. Perfect or Ms. Right only to wonder what else is out there, do you?

Bide Your Time

Successful dating sometimes requires a lot of waiting. It always requires a lot of work. But when you're not quite in a relationships with the person you want to be with, sometimes you might need to get creative. Find a way to enjoy yourself while waiting for the person you want frees up. Sooner or later, both of you will be available at the same time. Make sure, though, that he or she knows you find him or her attractive. Otherwise, you might miss your chance.

Successful dating isn't always what you expect. Sometimes the person you want just isn't ready. Or they're not available. When that happens, don't sit around waiting and pining after that person. Instead, get out there and keep yourself busy.