Everyone I know struggles. I struggle. You aren't exempt from them are you? Think through this list of struggles and see which one(s) apply to you: confidence, adequate communicating, having a sense of being loved or understood, dealing with irrational people, tapping into our passion, maintaining concentration in chaos, honoring our boundaries, and keeping a positive mindset.



It's troublesome that we focus on the problem rather than the solution. What is the key? The solution is right there in front of us. As an example, what if you focused on being confident rather than searching outside yourself to find someone or something to make you feel confident? What if you are passionate? You don't have to find it somewhere 'out there.'

Each of us finds justification in whichever string of thinking we select. When I indulge negative thinking, I'll be sure to create a way to make myself right about them. I'll listen to the news, interact with someone who focuses on the dark side, and flow deeper into negativity as the day progresses, wondering why I can't be more positive. When you think like this, you will create a raft of similar thoughts and the results of this like of thinking looks exactly like what you thought. These thoughts become reflected in our body language, stance, tone of voice and overall outlook. We then wonder why everyone around us is so negative.

However, if we focus on the solution of being positive, chances are extremely high that we'll find a string of activities and situations to substantiate just that. We may notice a patch of gorgeous flowers while walking to the mailbox or overhear a group of giggling children or co-workers. We can then participate in meetings feeling on top of our game, seeking out the good in others, noticing their brilliance when they speak, even if we disagree with their message.

As each of you progresses through this week, notice if your tendency is to focus on the solution or on the struggle. If you catch yourself focusing on your struggle ,simply say "Stop." Take a breath and change your attention to what you desire.

"I am positive. I am confident. I am dynamic. I am loved. I am understood. I am passionate. I am focused. I set protective boundaries. I love my life."

Your focus will be mirrored back to you. Change your thinking, and it will truly change your results. After all, who else is producing results for you? There truly is no one better than you to turn to for your self-confidence and to find your passion? Have a great week and enjoy your discoveries.