Sometimes guys get nervous about "how to be romantic". We try to cover it up and those of us that are "slick" do a good job of covering it up. But even the most suave and romantic guy still gets nervous about exactly how to show romance to a girl that he really wants to sweep off her feet. Maybe because each gender has its own language and while girls seem to be born with romantic thoughts, guys have to learn them.



But take heart because you can learn how to know the perfect words to say to the perfect girl in those moments of sweetness and romance. And the fact that you are already thinking about learning how to be a better sweetheart for your sweetheart means you are going to be ahead of the game when the time comes.

First, think about the last romantic movie you saw. You were probably with your girl and the sweet talking guy on the screen always knew what to say to make the girl want to be all his. That movie was just an example of the many ways we have romantic thoughts and words around us all the time in movies, on TV shows and even on the romantic cards you buy for her. So to start building your list of romantic statements to learn from by writing down and learning some of the best lines from these the movies, poetry and other sources. You can even put them on cards so you can have a few with you on a date should the right moment come along.

Getting prepared like this is not cheating at all. You don't run around at your job or at school thinking romantic thoughts. So if you use your "cheat sheet" just to change your mode of behavior before seeing the girl you adore, that's just a little trick of the trade that those smoothies know when they sweep girls off their feet with romantic talk. It doesn't mean you are going to just repeat memorized lines to your gal. But your homework puts you in the right frame of mind.

You know those slick lover boys know the tricks of how to talk romantic talk to a girl so you deserve to know them too. The trick isn't really a trick though because the best way to say romantic things is to speak from your heart. In fact, the last thing you want to do is just blindly repeat romantic words from your study notes hoping that will work. She will know you are faking it and it will not win her heart.

No, for you to give to your girl the gift of a very romantic thing to say, wait until what you want to say starts in your heart. Then express your feelings in a natural way, in the way you talk, not the way some song writer talks. Even if it isn't as poetic or full of romance words, if it comes from your heart, it will touch her and it will be genuine.

Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the "right" thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It's like using "the force" from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.

Now its gong to take some presence of mind when you know the time is right and you must muster the courage to let that love out from inside you. For girls romance is about love and sweetness but many times it takes a real man with some real guts to tell her how you feel. But think how many times the thought was in your head like "I never want this date to end." You know it has been here. But you cover it up because guys are just as good at hiding our feelings as girls are about expressing theirs. So the transition you must make is not to push down that romantic thought but to build on it and then finally let it out.

It might be as you cuddle watching sunset and inside you feel that you want that moment to last forever. You will have to build a superhighway between the feeling of that emotion and the saying of it. But once that feeling comes out of your mouth, in words that you use and phrases that are natural to you, they will go right to the heart of your girl.

Finding the right thing to say inside is opposite from just learning how to say phrases that are romantic from the movies, love songs or other people. You have a bumper crop of romantic ideas in your heart that just have not let out yet. But once you train your mind and heart to let your sweetheart know your feelings and desires, you will naturally become a guy who can use romantic words with the best of them. But your romantic thoughts won't just be empty phrases, they will be genuine expressions of real romance that you and your lover experience together.