You were chatting online when you met. You exchanged a few emails then a few photos. Then --after two weeks of chatting online, he called you. After you spoke to him, you realized that you hit it off and interested in meeting him. You decided to meet him in person for a cup of coffee or a cocktail. The date turned out horribly. He looked different from what you pictured. His personality was different too. As you sat through another torturous date and you impatiently await its close, you were left without anything to say. You don't want to hurt his feelings.



The type of situation occurs very often in the online and blind dating world. It happens as if one party feels good about the connection, while the other party decided that no connection was made. When this does happen, one party is left with telling the other that it is time to move on.

So what do you do in this situation? There is no right answer because rejecting someone is hurtful. Yet, you can make the rejection less painful by acting honest.

Here is a list of things that you should never do after you meet him:

Don't say that you want to see him when you don't.

Don't call or email him when you have free time.

Don't lead him on by telling him that you will call him back and never do!

Don't agree to any dates.

Do not give mixed signals.

Here is a list of things that you can do:

Tell him that it is important that the both of you find partners that are right.

Don't let him change your mind! Be assertive!

Most importantly, think about how you would want to be treated if the situation was reverse. Would you want to be led on?

However, if you did decide to go through the relationship, it would be built on false pretenses.