The experiences you have in life, the people you meet and the circumstances in which you now find yourself are a freflection of your attitude.



I am sure you know at least one person who is extremely negative in their outlook. They constantly complain about their life and how they fit into it. Have you noticed that the more these people complain the more they have to complain about?

If you have a recurring problem in your life you should take a very close look at your attitude towards it. Do you complain about it? Do you resign yourself to it? Do you EXPECT it to keep occurring? The following personal development technique can help.

Take a close look at the things in your life that are not working. Are these not the very things that you complain about? Are these not the things that you expect to be not working. When you focus on the problem and direct your mental efforts towards it you are in fact re-creating the problem and maybe even creating more problems. Without even going into the universal law of attraction, from a very practical viewpoint you are projecting to others what you expect from them and life. People tend to respond to this, albeit unconsciously, and give you what you expect!

One easy way to reverse your negative thinking in regards to a recurring situation in your life is to ask yourself questions. When you encounter a recurring problem you will find that you make statements such as "not again!", or "this always happens to me", or "I just knew that would happen!" You also find that the questions you ask yourself also reflect the problem itself and not the solution. You may ask questions such as "why does this always happen to me", "when is this going to stop happening", or "how long do I need to keep going through this", or "why can't I get past this", or "why can't I find a decent partner (job, home, career etc.).

These questions focus your mind on the problem and your mind is forced to answer the questions in a negative way. You may then have thoughts such as "because it's my bad luck", then your mind goes into a spin and recalls all the bad luck you have had. You may answer "there are no good men/women left" so your mind goes into a spin recalling just how many good people are married and how many "bad" people are left. The subconcious part of your mind then looks for things that will reinforce your beliefs and statements. When it finds them, which it always does, it immediately alerts your conscious thinking mind to them.

The key to reversing this downward negative cycle lies in the way you speak to yourself and others. Turn your outlook on its head by creating statements that are more positive about the situation. Don't make statements that reinforce the situation as it is but make them so they reflect how you would like it to be or that it is changing in that direction. Tell yourself "things are getting better" no matter how unrealistic this seems at first just keep telling yourself this. Instead of saying things such as "this always happens to me", or "I just knew that would happen!" tell yourself "everything happens for a reason" or "I will learn from this and move forward".

Do not say things like "this will never happen again" or "I am through with this problem" because you are still focused on the problem! Keep your focus always on the solution!

Begin now to ask yourself constructive questions that are not focused on the problem but are focused on the solution instead. This is a very powerful yet extremely easy thing to do that will dramatically transform your attitude and your life!

Try asking positive questions that require a constrctive positive answer such as "do I need to learn something from this experience and if so what is it?", or "what is the very best way for me to overcome this and create the results that I want to experience?", or "where should I look and what should I do to attract the right partner for me?"

Asking yourself the right questions will change how you view the situation and force your mind to search for answers. If your subconscious mind finds that it cannot supply you with the correct answers then it will diligently and tirelessly look for those answers through your life experiences, people you meet and siruations you encounter until it can answer what has been asked of it. Making statements that things are getting better forces the subconscious to look for things that reinforce that belief and alert you to them.

Believe it or not this approach will alter your entire perception of the world and your role in it. Before long you will find yourself becoming a much more positive person. You will gain insight into situations that in the past where perplexing and a constant irritation.

Try it and see!