When everything in your life is turning upside down, a lot of things can go wrong. The stresses of trying to figure out how to get your ex back can make it really hard to make the right decisions, especially when you have no idea what you are doing! Here is a short list of the top 3 mistakes people commonly make during this difficult time.



1) Drunken Dialing - It can be very lonely after a breakup, and it can often lead to late nights up just contemplating your situation over a few drinks. There is nothing wrong with that, but often the alcohol can lower your inhibitions and blur the lines so that your loneliness convinces you that its actually a good idea to call up your ex at 2:00 AM and spill all your feelings into whatever picks up: your ex or the voicemail.

This is all too common among newly broken-up couples, when the loneliness is at its worst. There are worse things you can do, but this really doesnt help your case any. If your ex even picks up that late, he finds himself talking to a lovesick and incoherent person whom he can barely understand...it doesnt paint a good picture of you, and neither does the alternative: a 10 minute long rambling voicemail message. Try to avoid this if at all possible.

2) Text-Message Terrorism - The coined name for this may sound a little dramatic, but so is the act itself. This is when (often fresh out the breakup and fresh into Panic Mode), you freak out and bomb your ex with message after message trying to stay in his thoughts and convince him to take you back.

This is a good way to ruin your chances completely, but it can be recovered from. The image this gives you isnt very flattering, and you run a good chance of making him so sick of you that he avoids you for life. If you find yourself doing this, stop immediately. If you have only done it a little bit, its not too hard to recover...if you let this behavior drag on too long, it can be devastating.

3) The Endless Slump - Allowing yourself to become so depressed that you can barely force yourself to get out of bed in the morning is NOT the ticket to winning your ex back. It can be hard to cope with breakup pain, but letting it get to an extreme such as this will not just hurt you, it will destroy you.

This is a very damaging problem that can do more than keep you from getting your ex back, it can keep you from ever getting anything. After a few missed days at class or work, you start to fall behind and you can even end up flunking or getting fired. Your friends will start to avoid talking to you because all you have to talk about is your pain, because there isnt anything else in your life at all. Until you realize that this just cannnot be the way you live your life, this behavior will continue to plague you until it drains you out and dries you up.

These are only three of the issues you may face, but it is very important that you try to avoid them at all costs. It is okay if you have already fell to one or all of them, but the time is now to stop letting these behaviors harm you. If you can rid yourself of these problems and develop a complete and well thought-out plan, you will soon discover just how easy it can be to get your ex back and get your life back on track.