You might also wan to use these concepts as seeds for contemplation or meditation.



1. Life always gives us exactly what we need for our next lesson in our growth process.

2. We are the sole creators of our reality

3. We and others are controlled by (victims of) ignorance, fear, desires and needs.

4. All are fellow souls in the process of evolution placed in our lives in order for us to discover our true spiritual self - through love.

5. When others behave with emotional or spiritual immaturity, perceive others as 5 year old children.

6. We and our loved ones are immortal indestructible spirit.

7. Nothing can happen to us or our loved ones that is not exactly what we need for our evolutionary process.

8. Focus on what specific lesson we have to learn in this situation.

9. Remember that our lesson is always love, regardless of what else we might need to learn or do.

10. Get free from any doubts about our self-worth, security and freedom.

11. Free ourselves from depending on others' behaviors in order to feel safe and worthy.

12. Experience our own inner self-worth, security, freedom and fulfillment.

13. Remember that we and our loved ones have the inner spiritual strength to deal with and overcome any event or situation, including wars, catastrophes, death and death of loved ones. Millions have does so before us.

14. Forgive others for their mistakes and weaknesses. (Let he who has not sinned throw the first stone.) (Forgive ourselves for our own mistakes.)

15. Communicate with others more effectively, without criticism, threats, whining, expressing very clearly and assertively what we deserve, need, feel and are asking in this situation.

16. Understand that love and forgiveness do not mean allowing the other to behave unethically of unjustly or do harm to us or others.

17. We have the right to lovingly and assertively confront others and even to employ measures to prevent them from harming us, others or themselves. (Doing this from a state of love and caring.)

18. We are worthy of love even when we need to say, "no". We can say, "no" with love.

19. Whatever we choose to do, continue to pray for them and visualize them in light wishing for their health, happiness and success.

20. The sure way to be loved as we are, is to love others as they are.

21. I choose and it is in my benefit to love and feel unity with the others.

In the same way we need to forgive others for their past.

Some truths which will help us forgive others are (some are based on various spiritual beliefs or Christian concepts which might not be acceptable to you or the subject):

1. All happens according to a divine plan which brings me exactly what I need at every stage of my evolutionary process in order to learn the next lesson.

2. Others are simply actors in my life drama, the script of which I write daily.

3. Others are the hands of the divine showing me the direction in which I must go.

4. All are souls in evolution, who act negatively out of ignorance and fear.

5. Forgiving does not mean saying that what the other did was right, it simply means that I forgive his ignorance and weakness as a fellow soul in the evolutionary process.

6. Forgiving does not make me vulnerable. Still needing something (security, affirmation, love ) from the other makes us vulnerable. Forgiving and loving without needing any thing from the other is my real protection.

7. I am the sole creator of my reality. I abuse others when I hold them responsible for what I create.

8. I have the power to create my life and need not hide behind excuses that I cannot because of something which others have done or are doing.

9. As souls in the process of evolution we all make many mistakes. This is natural. What is unnatural is not forgiving ourselves and others for these mistakes.

10. The other is a divine creation. Although he may not realize it, the divine is functioning through him. Not forgiving him, is to not forgive the divine.

11. We create as much pain in the world when we feel hurt as when we hurt.

And the words of Christ

12. "Let he who has not sinned, throw the first stone."

13. "Judge not, that you be not Judged."

14. "You will be judged with the strictness with which you have judged."

15. Peter asked Christ, "How many times should we forgive someone for what he has done, seven times?" Christ answered, " No Peter, Seven times seventy times."

See also truths for forgiving ourselves.