Men sometimes find it impossible to understand women. They say that their brides have changed after the marriage but the truth is that they are the same, only their position is different and this changes their point of view.



Marriage is a dream for every girl. It makes her feel that she has accomplished a life mission. After the marriage women still feel a little insecure. She enters a brand new world with different rules and this scares her a bit. The role of the groom is very important in this period of life because he is the closest person to her and she has no one else to trust.

Brides from Ukraine are not an exception to the rule. After the marriage they are introduced to a new society which they barely know. They leave their families and friends. They leave their favorite places and naturally they do not know how to act. Sometimes they are afraid even to ask how to deal with some daily life problems because they think that they will look stupid and unintelligent to the others.

If you have just came back from honeymoon, you will have to return to your job and daily routine. Your bride will be left home alone for long hours and between the tv series and the housework she will often ask herself now when you are already married, do you find her as attractive as you did the first time when you saw her.

The culture of the Ukrainians is very family oriented. Basically it is society in which woman is equal to the man. Wives work as much as their husbands and contribute to the household not only with domestic work but with money too.

You can help your bride feel more confident if you support her in the first month and encourage her to go to courses for language learning for example. These courses are good because they are visited by many foreigners in the same situation. Between the courses and lessons, for the right pronunciation and accent, people share what they feel and this is often the same what your bride has in mind. Speaking about it with others who can understand her will definitely help her. These courses often function as groups for discussion where language is only the skeleton of the course itself. And the course is called adaptation to the new society.

When you get back home always find time to discuss with her what she has learnt and who she has met. Little by little she will start telling you other people's stories which will repeat your case. Do not interrupt her telling her that you are different. You are not.

Intercultural marriages are very fragile exactly because of the culture shock. Remember the time when you have been to Ukraine and you wondered why people do this or that? Have you suffered the enigmatic Cyrillic letters they use? Have you felt lost most of the time?

Now you know what your bride means. Unlike you who has been in her native country for a limited time, your bride will stay with you forever - (hopefully) - so as soon as you help her adapt to everything unfamiliar and new, the better.