Jon Daniels, a professional coach, with a practice in Oxford explains, “It seems to be human nature to dwell on mistakes, failures and the negative aspects of life. This is really sad because we all, without exception, have some achievements that are worth rewarding ourselves for".

In a few one-hour telephone conversations, at weekly intervals, Jon invites his clients to review where they are now and what they want in the future. Together they create a strategy for getting to where they want to be and define the actions that will get the desired results. He is quick to point out that the coach is simply the catalyst. It is the client who makes the decision and the commitment. For a great many, the weekly reporting back of progress is the spur that keeps them on target. For others, even small achievements can create their motivation to raise their personal goals posts and aim higher.

“It seems to be a natural reaction for my clients to focus on what they have not done rather than on what they have done. This is enough to prevent them even attempting anything new if it is allowed to pass unchallenged."

Jon often gets a laugh when he refers to their warm fuzzy file. This is simply a list of all the good things that you have done since your last review. This maybe as simply as having a daily “To-Do" list and then actually doing everything that is on it. They can be simple as spending time with someone who is lonely – or smiling at a shop assistant. He says “This doesn’t exclude the big things too, but if you focus on these its all to easy to lose sight of these little things that make a big difference to someone else."

As this year draws to a close, Jon suggests now is an ideal time to undertake your own warm and fuzzy list. “You will be surprised how helpful it can be when you are having a day when everything seems out of kilter. If you maintain your list regularly you will be amazed at what you have achieved and this will spur you on to do even more."

Jon Daniels is always happy to discuss this or any other aspects of his approach to coaching, absolutely free of cost or obligation. He can be contacted during normal office hours on Tel: 07778 521759 or visit his website, www.feelingfantasticltd.co.uk, for more free information.