When you begin a new relationship with someone, you obviously want it to last as long as possible. Your relationship can last if you build a healthy relationship. However in order to have a strong relationship with someone, YOU must have a healthy mind and body and you must make that commitment to attain that status.

So how do you make a relationship healthy?

First, a healthy mind is when you have good self-esteem and confidence of who you are and what you want out of life. A healthy mind gives you independence so that you rely on yourself to get matters done and therefore not dependent on your significant other.

An unhealthy mind though is when you have little or no self-esteem and no confidence in yourself. The lines of communication become non-existent because you withdraw into your own world and just look to your partner for guidance on your life, which puts a burden on him or her. An unhealthy mind is also when you are still thinking of your old flame, this can be considered as emotionally unstable. This definitely will not help your new relationship and if you are in this situation, you must deal with it first before you lose your current relationship.

Second, a healthy body is when you take care of yourself. This means, you try to keep a healthy weight and you care about your appearances, how you look and feel on a daily basis. If you are a smoker, try to quit, if you drink excessively, try to stop, or any other bad habit or addiction you might have that would cause harm to your body in the long run.

Another healthy body tip is to exercise regularly to keep your heart functioning smoothly and eat a sensible diet, and yes , you can splurge once in awhile as a reward. Facts show that exercise boosts up the moral, and depression can be avoided. Your attitude becomes a positive one that makes your mate want to spend time with you. As you can see healthy mind and healthy body go hand in hand.

In retrospect, an unhealthy body is when you don't care enough about yourself to take care of your body. If you have picked up bad habits or addictions such as smoking, drinking, drugs, (or gambling which is becoming an increasing problem) in time you will let yourself go. If you eat a lot of junk food and your waistline is expanding, this is unhealthy for your body and might bring you down because you will not like how you look like anymore.

Because you don't care about yourself anymore, you don't try to exercise, your attitude is poor, the result is a relationship that collapses because your partner is not willing to spend any time with you anymore. You can not blame your partner because if you can not even love you, why should he?

When your mind and body are in sync with one another, you can acquire a positive attitude, and this keeps the line of communication going with your significant other. When your mind is 'clear' it allows you to listen to your partner and helps you support them whenever they require it (and vice versa). You are more likely to do what it takes to maintain that relationship in tip-top shape so that it continues to flourish.

Work hard on avoiding those pitfalls and take a stand on your mental and physical health. You are human, so setbacks are sure to happen, but do not let them destroy your state of mind or affect your health for the long run. Remember, if you are not happy or healthy how can you have a healthy relationship!