If you forget Valentine's Day, you are sending her a message that she is not special and that she is not important to you. It is the overdoing that time and effort, that sets romantic couples apart from the rest.

Most men will tell you that their partner is the most important thing in their lives, but unfortunately, their actions don't always reflect this. Relationships require attention. On a special day like Valentine's Day, men should devote 100 percent of themselves to the woman in their lives. Men often come up with excuses such as I'm not creative, she knows I love her or It's not my nature to be romantic. This is a lousy message to give the woman you love. You wouldn't like it if she adopted negative labels that limit how she treats you. Even if she does have similar excuses, I'm telling you that the truly great men on the planet don't do this. Great men have their priorities straight and their women appreciate being number one.

Some of the ways to make her feel special on Valentine's Day is the old reliable chocolate, but not if she is on a diet. Instead of roses, buy her flowers that begin with the first letter of her name. When writing on her Valentine's Day card, try and be expressive, don't sign with a mere Love, go deeper. Mail her more than one card, mail them to her home and business addresses. For the truly devoted men, try and send her a card every hour on the hour.

The time, effort and thoughts demonstrated are more appreciated than money spent. Unplug the television for the day, or better yet, turn off the power at your home. With no T.V. or computer to distract you and no furnace to warm you, you set the stage for romance with candles, a fire and blankets.

Another way to make her feel special is to take her a towel while she is in the shower, warm it in the dryer and when she steps out of the shower, hand it to her.

Life is too short not to be romantic and romantic people are happier than most. Remember the goal is to make her feel special.