Commercial banks usually have terms put out on the table that you are either expected to accept or decline, based on how you feel about the terms offered. You simply give them your information and based on your credit history, income, expenses, long term debt, and the amount of money needed to purchase the house, they deliver terms based on the bank's requirements and the current interest rate.

There is some room for negotiation, and you have choices based on the type of interest rate, whether it be adjustable or fixed, the length of the term, and how much you can afford every month. However, for the most part, it is a one-way deal where they tell you what is available and you choose.

You can always shop different banks and lending institutions that operate much of the same way. You can compare interest rates and terms, and find the bank that can give you the best deal. This is a great way to find competitive prices and find a mortgage that best fits your financial situation.

Now with private lenders, individuals or groups of individuals, who loan out their personal money to people for many reasons, as investments. Basically, they loan you the money to purchase the house and make a return on the interest that you pay. Many times, they are willing to work on more difficult terms, meaning, they make loans that most banks wouldn't. Often, there is a higher interest rate to counteract the risk of a higher risk mortgage.

Private lenders do not just do troubled or bad credit loans, but ranging from all types. It really is an individual preference as to what type of investment these individual lenders are willing to make. You will find many strong headed lenders that are as tough as the banks, and only want to see solid investments. Many of them are like this.

If you want to approach a private lender, you must come prepared with your information and what it is you want to accomplish. The private lender will have his or her own agenda as to the mortgage they want to set forth. With private lenders, however, there is room for negotiation. It is much more a two-way deal. You have terms you want to be met and the private lender will have his or her own. Negotiation takes place until a deal is met and the papers can be processed.

It is important to come educated and prepared when meeting with a private lender. You must have a clear picture of your financial situation and understand what it is you can afford, and not afford. If you can show steady income and the ability to pay the lender back, despite past circumstance, you may just have a shot. The private lender will not figure out all the information out for you like the bank. I am sure there are some who will, but not many.

In the end, the deal should cover both your agendas and be a joint decision, not one telling the other what is going to happen!

A private lender can be a great choice and offer you great deals if you can find someone willing to work with you. There are websites online that you can use that will help you find a private lender. Ask for referrals and be sure to trust the person you are working with.