Have you just been dumped? Do you wish that you could get back with your ex but your wife or ex wife isn't interested in trying to save your marriage? Well you're not alone even though you might think you are at this point.

This kind of thing happens to people every day and you need to know that there is still hope. It doesn't have to end here - if you go about it the right way you can give yourself more than a fighting chance of getting her back.

Before I say anything else you must do this right away. It's important if you're serious about making up with your spouse - Accept the situation - Tell her that you're cool with the split and that you think it's the right thing to do for both of you. You're going to find that this isn't an easy thing to do but it will diffuse the tense situation and subconsciously change your ex's attitude towards you. Accepting the separation will make it much easier for you to get back together later.

This sounds wrong doesn't it? How can breaking up help you to get your wife back? Well the statistics show that you actually have a better chance of making up if you take a break and start afresh. Not understanding this is likely to be one of the main reasons why most attempts at saving your marriage fail.

Most guys panic at this point and start declaring their undying love, making promises and pleading with their wife to change her mind. At best this will provide only a temporary reprieve if it works at all. Your wife will see you as weak and pathetic and sooner or later the inevitable will happen. You have to break this pattern.

Have you ever looked at a couple together and thought why on earth is she with that guy? You know the guy who treats his women like dirt and will cheat on her at the drop of a hat. Why does she prefer him over the host of great guys lining up for her all of who would treat her like a princess?

Well if you understand this then you have a better understanding of women than most other guys. Could it be because she is instinctively attracted to the strongest and most confident man even though she knows that he's bad news for her.

Now I'm not saying that you have to be Mr. Horrible to get your wife back but you absolutely must show her that you are strong, that you can live without her and that you can be her ultimate protector. This is why the first step towards making up is to break up with her calmly and confidently.

Give yourself 30 days apart from your ex and use that time to work on yourself. Improve your appearance, focus on a hobby and start dating or at least start talking to other women.

You will find that talking to or dating other women can be a great boost to your confidence. Difficult at first but it gets easier - trust me I know - It can also be a lot of fun. You have the time to devote to yourself now so use it to enjoy yourself.

When you feel that you no longer need to get back with your wife - this is the best time to approach her again. Be careful though, if you still want to get her back then you must do it the right way. You have to have a plan and understand what you are doing otherwise you may lose your opportunity. Find a good book that will teach you how to do this, read it and follow the advice. It can mean the difference between getting your lover back and being just good friends.