You need to take advantage of these feelings instead of wasting your time on the negative emotions that make you feel hurt, betrayed, guilty or angry towards your ex lover. If you want to improve your chances of getting your wife back, you need to forgive your partner, forgive yourself, and convince her that the love you had still remains.

So how can you get your ex wife back? Here are few helpful hints. Note: these hints can also be used if you are married and would like to rebuild your relationship.

Use the past to help your present and improve your future ? Your ex fell in love with the past you, but is having trouble finding that spark of love with the current you. What was it that made your ex fall in love and enjoy spending time with? What was it about your personality that she found irresistible? Become the person she fell in love with.

Take the time to engage in positive communications with your ex ? Call her on the phone, send her an email, pass her on the street, or meet her for coffee, treat her as you would a first date. In other words, don't try to come on too strong. Keep conversations light and friendly, and reminisce about the good times. Be sure to laugh, smile, and above all, be yourself. Furthermore, never delve in the negative aspects of your past partnership. There will be enough time to effectively sort through any problems you may have once you are closer to getting your wife back.

The goal is to take it slow and show your ex lover that you still think and care about her.

Be aware of your physical appearance? Do not make the mistake of neglecting your physical appearance. As time wears on in a relationship it is common for us to become lazier with our appearance when in the presence of our loved one. Remind your ex wife you still have the style and the looks that once charmed and caught her eye. If need be, give yourself a full makeover, and don't forget to wear the cologne or a particular outfit she liked on those few occasions when you ?accidentally? run into her.

Show self-respect ? Don't count on getting back with ex if you appear desperate or needy. You need to have self-worth, confidence, and emotional stability. You want her to be attracted to you, not resent you.

If you want your ex lover to realize that you both still love each other very much, and you want you wife back for another chance at your relationship, the bottom line is you need to show her that you are still the person she fell in love with.