And there is a lot of great advice out there, but also a lot of just plain awful advice too.

So how do you know if you have chosen the right approach for you when it comes to trying to get your ex back or if you are just making your self more confused and blundering along instead?

Here are 3 tips that will help you to know whether or not the approach you are considering will be the best for you or if it will only end up making things worse instead.

1. Is it gender specific advice? Men and women are different - think Venus and Mars of course. So when reading advice not tailored specifically for your sex you have to evaluate whether it's just good, practical advice that applies to both sexes or whether it's something that might be more fitting for a man or a woman. The best advice is written with the psychology of how men and women act and react in a relationship, knowing what men and women really want and understanding that it's different, not the same. There are some universal wants that specifically apply to everyone in a relationship including having certain needs met. But those needs are different for men and women and the best advice takes this into consideration.

2. Do you gravitate to more abstract, bigger ideas and thoughts or are you more comfortable with very practical step by step advice? When you want to win back a lost love it's important to have a plan and stick to it. But a plan can be a detailed and logical step by step or have a bigger picture approach such as using universal laws such as the law of attraction principles. In this case it's important to look at how you approach other areas of your life. Do you feel much more comfortable having a lot of guidance, implicit instructions on how to do things etc. Or are you more of the leap into the unknown type, more able to trust in an approach that is based more on freedom and willingness to work on faith and application of creating reality principles?

3. Do you want to focus on just getting your ex back, or are you more open to advice that will help you find happiness whether or not you get back together with your lover? So much of the time when we are hurting emotionally we think that if we just fix the problem that caused the pain we will be happy again. But sometimes we aren't thinking clearly enough and are unwilling to face our worst fears. Really good advice will help you with a strategy to follow to get your ex back if that really is the right thing for you, but it will also help you to face your deepest fears and heal emotionally. It will also help you to grow stronger, and become a person who can move on if it's not the right relationship for you and put you in a position to attract something even better.

You really do deserve to have the relationship of your dreams and if you feel in your heart that your ex is the one you want to have that relationship with then it's time to get yourself in motion and choose the right advice and strategy for you.

It's my hope that these 3 tips will help you sort through all the advice and strategies you may read about and consider with a much more informed mindset. Knowing you have the strongest plan for you will help you feel much more comfortable in your approach to winning back your ex.

And having confidence that you are following the best advice for your unique situation and personality will make you feel much stronger and more sure of yourself. And it goes without saying that this will definitely increase your confidence, which increases your attraction to your ex and puts lots of positive momentum in your favor.